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It’s o.k. my dear, 
, learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them again in future friendships. Now you should be able to recognize warning signs of users. I’ve gone through it myself and it is not pleasant.
I have an extremely small circle of friends, but I know these people will always be in my life. They aren’t the type to bail or disappear. For me, it is better to have sincere and loyal friends than a large group of friends who are not true friends to begin with.
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:( i know it sucks to be used but i still dont see of it as bad...i mean if i am friends with someone i dont mind giving them all my help and support but i expect to have a kick ass time with them too. i would even go out with someone i dont like if its something fun than sit and get bored at home.
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Now that’s a definition of a user :-p
I thought only diamonds are forever…didn’t know about friends.
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^^ meaning i wont turn down their invitation. i think that is better than ditching a friend.
and it does not mean i am 'using' them. not like i am making them take me shopping or something..
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I'd rather be ditched than sense insincerity. :-) I prefer spending time at home.
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good for u
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Merci 
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r u laughing because u were joking? or are u laughing cuz u think the above came out sounding really funny to you? 
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PCG, you have friends? ...let alone best friend
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I am a desi and have good manners... :)
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More friends than you, which for you would be your kids. And they're young right now...
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Actually women doing an about turn on their social life (read ditching pre marriage/engagement friends) isn't actually that rare. Quite the contrary. I think its done to show more commitment to their new family or be a better bahoo or some crap like that. Who knows? I stopped trying to figure them out a loooooong time ago.
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Even though I have never been in a situation as such, but I proly stop inviting them or actually I would ask em' is it really your studies or does it have anything to do with me? And I would request them to tell the truth, why go crazy over whats wrong with the friend when I can simply ask them. If it does, Good bye. If not, Oh I understand, I hope everything works out for you!
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Well i duno wot sort of desis u hang around with…i don’t think most desi ppl are that impolite actually, just my experience…on a side note, i’ve noticed Americans in general have quite poor manners, compared to ppl in Europe and elsewhere…so if ur talking about American desis, then perhaps ur rite, along with other Americans hehe…as for ur situation, whether u decide to end the friendship or not, shud be based upon other stuff too and how much u have invested emtionally with them…perhaps it’s natural to think “he/she hates me”…but maybe they really r having problems in their personal life rite now and choose to keep a distance from everyone…if it was me, i probably wudn’t end it just cos they keep saying no…instead, just see if they ever get back to me…if they don’t, and lots of time has passed, then it is obvious the friendship has faded out…maybe oneday u can patch it up again…who knows…invite him/her to ur wedding? Yea y not…it’s a happy occasion, swallow ur pride and invite ppl u may not like that much too…in this case, they probably wudn’t show up also.
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Friendship comes from both sides, so I should stop calling that person.
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PCG, yeh tumhee weekends main kia chul lagi rehti hai. Desi aise hote hain, desi waise hote hain. Agar Desi and Pakistani itne bure hain then do us all a favor and change your nationality. You know the nationalities that have manners, I believe, you look for.
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I'd like to see exactly where the bloody desi mentality is on this one. Thanks in advance.
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Why this line?
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A girl gets married, she gets busy she wants to spend time iwth her husband... quit complaining :p I hav friends too, but my family, inshalah husband and kids are the priority, they are much more important to me than my friends are or will be.
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I don't know how these girls' relationship works.
I'm extremely busy and have been for over a year now. It doesn't seem like its gonna get any better anytime soon. I don't have time for ANYTHING. I hardly speak to my very close friends, they are all busy too in their lives. We hang out once in like 4 months and that too for 3 hours or so b/c i always have a gazillion things to do when i'm on holiday. Anyway, it hasn't made our relationship any less weaker since we don't see each other all that often. We use to phone each other a lot, and we've talked about everything under the sun. We understand each other so well, and if there's one thing i'm sure about its that we're solid. It doesn't matter how often we phone each other, or how often we see each other. We'll always share the same height of closeness.
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Why does every relationship a desi has get put on the line when it comes to invitations for weddings?
After the second time the person tells me she's got trouble with school work or whatever, I would be at her doorstep or all over her family trying to find out how I could help. That is, of course, if she is my best friend.