I think that's a wise choice. Leave her and her ways... I commend you for deciding to not make things public - Allah swt will give you a lot of ajjar for that - not many people can do that, some can get vengeful and petty.
All the best - you seem like a genuine guy - I'm sure you will find someone more worthy of your companionship. :)
I completely agree. When people do really bad things to you, you have to be really nice to them after. Forget the fact that she will likely do the exact same thing to the next guy. You know what I'm talking about. Sending explicit pictures, having sex chats, and then meeting secretly with the other guy to play Nintendo Wii.
I don't understand why the people who are replying are calling the woman who they don't know a "slut" or a "ho"
I thought the same thing BUT if the roles were reversed, and we were reading about a husband who slept wiht another woman, he'd get all the same kind of crappy comments at his character too.
You could just not agree to the khula and make her life difficult. She deserves it.
What would be the point of that?
When your wife secretly got together in one hotel room with the man she said she loved and sent explicit pictures of herself to, they merely sat down together to played some Nintendo Wii. Right?
Ho sakta. My husband walked in on me and another guy eating cake in our bedroom....i tried to explain to him it was just cake... but. :( (and then I woke up....thank goodness)
I thought the same thing BUT if the roles were reversed, and we were reading about a husband who slept wiht another woman, he'd get all the same kind of crappy comments at his character too.
and I would say the same thing.
its distasteful to call somebody like that.
a girl who was born and raised in paksitan did this ? .. wOw .. i cannOt believe this .. uber-modern thinking gir and her family based on their explanations ..
Not if one person isn't devoted to making it work. why place all the burden on just one party?
I'm not suggesting that the burden is all upon one person.......however, having said that......I do believe that "making things work" is not always going to be an equally shared task. There are times in life when one partner has more strength than the other.....times when one is more devoted than the other......times when one can bear/tolerate more than the other. The deciding factor can be as simple as "how devoted are you".
She is NOT VICTIM. Don't ever think that. Get that out of your system. Don't let her play you ............ she is been doing that for 9 months.! Are you so easily played ?
Playing on sms and spending actual married life is different ...... believe me from a girl's prospective .. if they have spent a night with some one ..... it is a different story altogether.
If she is asking for khula that means she has reached a point in her mind where compromise will be just that compromise and life doesn't happen again. IT HAPPENS ONLY ONCE. Spend your love and energy on some one who will return it . Move on!
She is NOT VICTIM. Don't ever think that. Get that out of your system. Don't let her play you ............ she is been doing that for 9 months.! Are you so easily played ?
Playing on sms and spending actual married life is different ...... believe me from a girl's prospective .. if they have spent a night with some one ..... it is a different story altogether.
If she is asking for khula that means she has reached a point in her mind where compromise will be just that compromise and life doesn't happen again. IT HAPPENS ONLY ONCE. Spend your love and energy on some one who will return it . Move on!
Indeed,
Don't forget some people want a perfect marriage/relationship to fall into their hands, anything else is just a compromise, which they shouldn't have to do. Ditch that ungrateful ****.
I thought the same thing BUT if the roles were reversed, and we were reading about a husband who slept wiht another woman, he’d get all the same kind of crappy comments at his character too.
But nobody calls a man a slut and a ho and asks him to go to the street and start charging for it. These are very very insulting terms to women in general and just goes to show that one mistake and ur labeled a slut / ho.
Cheater / unfaithful / promiscuous even b*tch is ok.
But to say things like she should go on the street and stuff is in very poor taste.
To the OP. Count your blessings it all got over when it did. She might have never loved you and you are lucky that it ended. Was she very pretty since you mentioned you were infatuated with her. How did u guys meet , was it an arranged marriage ?
And what do u mean my famous ?? What does 10,000+ fans/ friends on Fb mean ??
Its not easy moving on, but boy as and when time passes, you’ll slowly slowly start forgetting things about her and then one day it will be difficult to remember what you liked about her in the first place.
Try not being in touch with her visa FB or BB. Just block her out completely. Coz if you keep checking out her profile on Fb and stuff its gonna take longer. you’ll just be wasting your time. Instead go out have mocktail or cocktails (yumm) and enjoy your self and work towards searching for a new loyal and loving life partner.
