Man will obey his wife and disobey his mother

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This is from the signs of judgment day, that a husband will obey his wife and disobey his mother.. and he will respect his friend and ignore his father.

How true do you think is this today? means, do we see it today more than a decade ago even? hmmm

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Obey??? :omg:

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you men jOOru ka ghulam? Zun Mureed?

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howcome men start 'obeying' their mothers a lot more after getting married?

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Obey: to be obiedient; Dutifully complying with the commands, orders, or instructions of one in authority.

:frowning:

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If you call giving your wife her rights obeying...than you have nothing to worry about...abhi vo din bohoooooooooot door hein.

Chalo, khush hojao. :)

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**I think most men obey their mothers more then their wives, and they forget the rights wives have over them.

But either way, its a shame to disobey your wife or your mother, as there are serious consequences for both. **

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:p lol no.. u know what it means, obeying the wife to the point where man starts disrespecting his mother...

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Take a step back girls.

Men are not chabi k khiloney that they will "obey" someone. They have mind (and pretty stable one) to make decisions about who is right and who is wrong.

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What if the moms are asking their sons to do things that aren't right (in light of Islam)? Are the sons still commanded to obey their mothers even then? Just a question.

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No. kids are not bound to obey any order from Parents thats against Islam but they still have to be polite. Just dont slam door on parents...

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absolutely yes.

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Exactly, I agree. Many situations are not black and white and I'm hoping that Cricketplaya has considered this point. A person with a just and stable mind should be able to discern who is right and who is wrong. Sometimes the erring party is the wife and sometimes it's the mother. Parents are not infallible.

I think even Islam allows us to disobey parents if they're actions or requests are unIslamic. Religion has mentioned the rights of various relationships. And if a mother's demands are interfering or infringing upon the basic Islamic rights of a wife.......then yhe mother's behavior is not in accordance with Islamic guidelines. She can't be "obeyed" just because she's "MOM" at the expense of someone else. Similarly, the wife can be wrong as well. One can RESPECT others witout agreeing with them....and this includes parents. If Islam has given parents an elevated status and requires us to respect them....then there's also the hadith that the best of the men are those that are the KINDEST to their wives. Why pick and choose what to follow? There has to be balance and fairness.

*****IMO....there is no sawaab in supporting a person who is clearly wrong just because they are your parent or immediate family member. Supporting a sinful action....makes you sinful. Staying quiet and allowing the sinful action to take place makes you guilty as well.

The overall situation needs to be considered. One can't assume that a person is a "jahanami" or a "sinner" because he supported the wife over the mom...or a friend over their parents. Nor is it reasonable to rush to the "Haaaaw haaai....yeh banda hai qiyamat ki nishani" judgment about someone. It's possible that there is now a greater prevalance for a certain behavior than in past decades.......but even then....situations vary.

Also.....even decades ago (grandparents) must have complained about our parents.....that "Kids are stubborn. Times have changed...they do their own man-maani....Maa Baap ki koi ahmiat hi nahin" These types of scoldings existed back then as well.

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:k:
Of course, both wife and mother have their rights. Kids don’t have to obey their parents if their orders are against Islam. That’s all true, well and good. [nobody is saying some1 is a jahanami, tauba tauba]

But what I’m asking is a general question is in context of the hadith. Is there more of this happening today than let’s say 10-20 years ago?

:stuck_out_tongue: bro you have to admit, men’s heart melt easily in front of a loving woman, that’s our weakness, in our nature.. :slight_smile:
you can quote me on this, dear sisters… :bummer:

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Actually most women complain that men respect and obey their mothers to the point of disrespecting them. Isnt that what most problems in Life1 are all about? MIL and husband on one side and the wife on the other? Look at the majority of the issues women complain about when it comes to inlaws...its mostly about MIL having free reign and husband not saying anything to defend her.

Like I said, you have nothing to worry about. :)

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why does "man" need to 'obey' anybody? can't 'man' use his own dimagh?

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That’s true, MIL are messed up too.
But we never hear the good MIL or DIL stories :snooty: so yeah!

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i dnt mind being called either joru ka ghulam....or mamas' boy... :LB:

here..... problem solved

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No…as they say…unka dimagh ghans charne gaya huwa hai. Bicharay, jahan unko hakao…chale jayenge. :hehe:

Do people ever complain about good things? Nope.

All Im saying is that this qayamat ki nishani as you call it…isnt all that prevalent.

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Cricketplaya why are you obsessed with mother in laws??? Do you not have a J-O-B that should be keeping you busy? Do you dream of mother in laws?? I don't understand this obsession?!?!