…it seems to me that the whole idea is culturally (east/west I mean) backwards.
In the east, in Pakistan. The middle/middle-upper class people typically live near lots of family and have lots of hired help - cooks, cleaners, drivers, shoppers. Life is slower, workdays are shorter, vacations are longer.
In the west (USA), life is nuts. No household help - heck who can afford it? Typically not much family nearby or if they are, they’re so busy with their own nutso lives that you rarely see them. Not much vacation time, long long work hours for the hubby.
In pak, a 2nd wife is (seems to me), a recreational toy for the hubby. But if it happened in the west, a 2nd wife would make life a tad easier on the home front.
NOT that MY hubby will ever get a 2nd wife over here, lol. The closest he’s getting to that is having my Mom here with us now! And having her here makes life SOOOOO much easier, SO much more gets done.
Just some random musings since - woo-hoo - I have some free time!
^^ I agree with fraudz, that doesn't sound quite right...
and 2nd wife is not always a toy for husband, it really depends on the circumstances and not everyone in Pakistan has a 2nd wife. Honestly it is better to have a helper then a 2nd wife, she won't be maintenance free anyway, so why not just pay that money to a helper and live peacefully.
I beg to differ with Fraudz.
Four year olds are amazing with laundry and loading and unloading the dishwasher.
Noor is great. All I need to do is prop her up on the dryer and she manages to put all the clothes into the washer.....then she helps transfer from washer to dryer and then she helps to unload and fold.
She does the same thing for me with the dishwasher.....just gotta help her with the heavy dishes.
She was more thrilled to get a mop/broom/dust pan set than she was to get her Dora Playstation Game and the miracles that little people can work with a swiffer duster are just amazing......
Thanks Muzna, but can they starch and iron the shirts and all? and hang them in the closet..take off bedsheets and pillow cases and then put them back on etc.
it is cave mentality to think of getting a 2nd wife because of house work. will you support 2nd husband for the same reason? because men can work a lot more
Thanks Muzna, but can they starch and iron the shirts and all? and hang them in the closet..take off bedsheets and pillow cases and then put them back on etc.
Who the heck does all that?!?
Anyway, Mamaof3's kids (at least some) have got to be bigger than 4. I saw their picture quite some time ago; they must have grown older. Mama, hasn't the eldest started school yet?
lol. some amusing responses (sorry to those who took it seriously, it was not meant to be a serious thread). And yes, lol, I think I COULD have phrased some of my statements better than I did!
To Sind, yes I've heard of Au Pairs. Just waiting to win lotto then for sure we will hire an overweight discipline-crazy Swedish gal named hildegaard....wart on the nose with black hair sprouting out and at least 50 lbs overweight req'd. (AGAIN, lighthearted joking except for the winning lotto part!). These gals are expensive.
My Boys can pick up after themselves sure. They also help a bit with laundry and "picking up". But vacuuming, mopping, dusting, making food shopping lists yadayada all that is beyond them at ages 6, 5 and 3. I'm not complaining here, i love what we have. Which is a big yard for them to play in with our 2 big doggies and kitty. Lots of dirt to track in, lots of fur in the rugs and on clothing. 6 people to cook for. Its alot for one mama with a hubby who works 12 hour days. Its just SO VERY nice to have my mom here with me. Not that I'm working her to the bone lol. But she can sit with the boys while they eat a meal and I can get the house vacuumed or a bigger task done, see what I mean? Boys are young enough that they require a bit of supervision at all times and having another loving relative here makes it SO much easier.
Thanks for some of the kind and amusing replies! Its been kind of a sad time in life for me lately and its nice to get a bit lighthearted.
Mama, errr, i cant exactly put my finger on it, but you may want to rephrase this sentence :)
Pir sahib, to each his own. Mamaof3 has perhaps a very young mother. There could be just a difference of 18-20 years in their age. If nobody has any objection in the matter, why should you?
awww, come on guys!