Arghhh. I know they say how a man treats his mother is a clue to how he’ll treat his wifey but arghhhh - some men really, really need to grow up and display signs of independence!
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There is something very disturbing about the Mama's Boy Syndrome...
I was watching a show where this supposedly VERY knowledgeable lady (Islamic) was telling a girl that complained her husband abuses her, treats her badly..she said if his mother (the guy's) asks him to divorce u he HAS to listen to his mother otherwise it's considered "na-fermani" and he'll be punished..
Arghhh. I know they say how a man treats his mother is a clue to how he'll treat his wifey but arghhhh - some men really, really need to grow up and display signs of independence!
I agree with ya SU! It's important to honor and respect your mother. But like they say, too much of anything is not good. Moms are human and like all other human beings they are not perfect and are not immune to negative emotions such as jealousy. Keeping that in mind allows for a broader understanding of issues. Being a respectful and caring son is one thing. But being a mama's boy can be a turn-off...a nauseating and disturbing quality.......especially when mom is being supported for viewpoints that are clearly wrong!
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Oh great! now we're zooming in on a rare disturbed mental condition of some males!
How a man treats his mother is a clue to how he will treat his wife? Where did you get that? What about those men who are influenced by their mothers and treat their wives like crap? Again, men are not to be blamed here, its women who play politics against women. Men keep it straight and crooked women can play them - I have to admit.
Mama's boys are few, and they end up like that because of constant dominant attitude of their mothers. This is how they raise them, denying them of their indepence and the freedom of expression and choice. A majority snaps out of it as they grow older, some are unable to get out of that dominated state of mind.
Root of the problem? Woman!
I was watching a show where this supposedly VERY knowledgeable lady (Islamic) was telling a girl that complained her husband abuses her, treats her badly..she said if his mother (the guy's) asks him to divorce u he HAS to listen to his mother otherwise it's considered "na-fermani" and he'll be punished..
She doesn't sound KNOWLEDGEABLE to me Gina!
See? You’ve got to be kidding me! The women are always trying to better other women’s lives 
Back to the Big Babies who can’t breath without asking mamas.
When I have a son, he will spend considerable time with his father so he can learn manly ways at a young age!
You are so biased it’s not even funny.
But what’s even funnier is you’re basically saying a woman can mould a man into anything. 
"A man is the head but the woman is his neck, she can turn the head in any direction she wants: :halo:
There, now you are making a whole lot of sense SU. Bravo! :k:
The problem starts when mothers decide to take the cake in raising their kids. Sons need to spend more of their time with their fathers so they can learn the art of living properly. A lot of mothers, being women, cannot help but indulge their children into their politics, permanently jeoperdizing their future.
I was watching a show where this supposedly VERY knowledgeable lady (Islamic) was telling a girl that complained her husband abuses her, treats her badly..she said if his mother (the guy's) asks him to divorce u he HAS to listen to his mother otherwise it's considered "na-fermani" and he'll be punished..
Yikes! No woman should have to put up with abuse from her husband. The Prophet SAWS told the men in his community that the best among them is the one who is kindest to his wife. It's not right to follow one aspect of Islam and ignore others. And if this woman's marriage has become sooooo dysfunctional that is it beyond repair........then she should not have to wait for her mother-in-law to give the signal for divorce. Islam allows a woman to get a divorce from her husband....she doesn't need to wait for the guy's mom. It's bad enough to commit zulm against others, it's worse to endure it.
Oh great! now we're zooming in on a rare disturbed mental condition of some males!
How a man treats his mother is a clue to how he will treat his wife? Where did you get that? What about those men who are influenced by their mothers and treat their wives like crap? Again, men are not to be blamed here, its women who play politics against women. Men keep it straight and crooked women can play them - I have to admit.
Mama's boys are few, and they end up like that because of constant dominant attitude of their mothers. This is how they raise them, denying them of their indepence and the freedom of expression and choice. A majority snaps out of it as they grow older, some are unable to get out of that dominated state of mind.
Root of the problem? Woman!
I thought the topic of discussion was men without balls. Where did women come into the picture?
I speak only the facts SU, only the facts! Its not about being biased, its about knowing a problem, analyzing its causes and admitting to the weaknesses. Yes men tend to get weak when played by women.
I could quote the Biblical version of Eve convincing Adam into eating that apple, but I really dont feel like having a bunch of Mulla McKenzie’s riding my butt, so I wont be touching that. But we see so many real life examples everyday where women indude men into doing very stupid things.
That is why I always say men should know their position and should keep reminding the women, by one way or the other, their position.
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Let's forget about why these men are mamas' boys and concentrate on how do their ladies deal with this frustrating problem!
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^ I respectively disagree. I think women should rule the world per my last read 
Amazon.com: Why Women Should Rule the World: Dee Dee Myers: Books
I thought the topic of discussion was men without balls. Where did women come into the picture?
The problem, dear lady, is that those men aren't born without balls. And I am talking about the reasons. You can certainly go on and on about those guys without getting into the basic details of it.
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Jaanwar - you cannot deny only some guys have MOMMY issue but most of them have DADDY (or should I say lack of DADDY) issues
Yeah, much more convenient to discuss how to get rid of a begger without getting into the details of what makes them a begger.
Anyway, dropping the reasons why they are what they are and getting to how ladies deal with them - it is a pure woman vs woman issue i.e. wife versus MIL.
I believe the one who is more manipulative of the two wins. 
I was watching a show where this supposedly VERY knowledgeable lady (Islamic) was telling a girl that complained her husband abuses her, treats her badly..she said if his mother (the guy's) asks him to divorce u he HAS to listen to his mother otherwise it's considered "na-fermani" and he'll be punished..
thats just crazy talk.
i knw a mother who asked his son to divorce his wife because they couldn't have any children's. so he did and married another lady, and still couldn't have any kids, so wife # 2 got herself checked...she was fine, so she got him checked...He was the one with a problem. even thogh his mother knew this she still pressured him to divorce his 2nd wife.
the wife left him before he could...and now he is alone (been alone for almost 5 years).
^ thats just sad…u have to play mind games with ur “parents”
This lady used to come on the Nadia Khan show..called Dur-e-shahwar or something.. I'm glad a lady called and told her..what if u're son-inlaw divorces u're daughter because the MIL asked him to? She really didn't have much to add then..
But it's sickening to see mama's boys reporting whatever goes-on between husband and wife to their mama's!