Mamas' Boys

[Jaanwar]

^ thats just sad...u have to play mind games with ur "parents"

Sorry didn't quite get you. Could you elaborate?

[Straight_up]

@Jaanwar

Yeah, much more convenient to discuss how to get rid of a begger without getting into the details of what makes them a begger.

Anyway, dropping the reasons why they are what they are and getting to how ladies deal with them - it is a pure woman vs woman issue i.e. wife versus MIL.

I believe the one who is more manipulative of the two wins.

So basically, if a man is a loser, his wife should master manipulation in order to have a happy marriage? :aq:

Loser can continue with his loserness??

[Gina]

^ Yes, or learn from the MIL

[Bonbonniere]

Re: Mamas' Boys

Ive seen more men leaning and clinging to their mommy then daddy and its such a problem for the poor girls who end up with these guys.

[Jaanwar]

@Straight_up

So basically, if a man is a loser, his wife should master manipulation in order to have a happy marriage? :aq:

Loser can continue with his loserness??

Its not the normal breed of men we are talking about. This is the case of an under-developed and overly influenced mind. Yes, that amputated excuse for a man has to continue the way he knows best, and the two women have to play him against each other. The battle goes on between the two influencial women.

[Straight_up]

I*ts not the normal breed of men we are talking about.* This is the case of an under-developed and overly influenced mind. Yes, that amputated excuse for a man has to continue the way he knows best, and the two women have to play him against each other. The battle goes on between the two influencial women.

Definitely not normal, yes we get that, but I hope you won't dare say it's quite uncommon too. Because Jaanwar dude, Mommy's Boy can be seen all over the place.

[Jaanwar]

Ive seen more men leaning and clinging to their mommy then daddy and its such a problem for the poor girls who end up with these guys.

Good Lord! the problem is not about a boy being closer to his mother. The problem is about having an overly manipulative and authoritative woman for a mother who turns her boy into a wimp.

[Straight_up]

@Jaanwar

Good Lord! the problem is not about a boy being closer to his mother. The problem is about having an overly manipulative and authoritative woman for a mother who turns her boy into a wimp.

Of course that’s the problem Jaanwar! Oh my, are you one of them?

[Jaanwar]

@Straight_up

Of course that’s the problem Jaanwar! Oh my, are you one of them?

That would be a very generous overstated generalization. There are numerous examples of very classy men raised single handedly by mothers. I am not sure about the cases you women have seen, but not a lot of men have manipulative and authoritative mothers. Those who have them, end up being wimps and sissys.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

@Straight_up

Arghhh. I know they say how a man treats his mother is a clue to how he’ll treat his wifey but arghhhh - some men really, really need to grow up and display signs of independence!

on the other end of the spectrum…being whipped (ie being wrapped around your wife’s finger) by your wife is not good either. Men have to balance things out either way. Personally, there is nothing more attractive then a strong independent man who has respect for all women…especially his mom and/or wife.

with that said…for those that have sons (mamaof3?) you gotta admit…you would love your sons to be a mama’s boy.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Good Lord! the problem is not about a boy being closer to his mother. The problem is about having an overly manipulative and authoritative woman for a mother who turns her boy into a wimp.

very good point you brought up. A boy can be close to his mother and still be independent...i guess it depends on how the mom raises him.

My nephew is 15 yrs old....he is very close to his mom even at this age. He has no prob showing PDA in towards his mom. At this age boys hate doing that...yet he is already very independent and my sister totally encourages it.

[zobia]

@Jaanwar

Oh great! now we’re zooming in on a rare disturbed mental condition of some males!

1. How a man treats his mother is a clue to how he will treat his wife? Where did you get that? What about those men who are influenced by their mothers and treat their wives like crap? Again, men are not to be blamed here, its women who play politics against women. Men keep it straight and crooked women can play them - I have to admit.

2. Mama’s boys are few, and they end up like that because of constant dominant attitude of their mothers. This is how they raise them, denying them of their indepence and the freedom of expression and choice. A majority snaps out of it as they grow older, some are unable to get out of that dominated state of mind.

Root of the problem? Woman!

:k:
…but some play both the roles “mama’s boy” and “jooroo ka Ghulam” at the same time.

i have few frnds with dominating personalities. and i feel sorry for their prospect hubby.

[Jaanwar]

Re: Mamas’ Boys

Angel Eyes - thanks buddy. You’re talking pure sense :k:

[Bonbonniere]

Good Lord! the problem is not about a boy being closer to his mother. The problem is about having an overly manipulative and authoritative woman for a mother who turns her boy into a wimp.

The only problem I have with this statement is it makes men seem like spineless piles of mush that are almost willing to be manipulated by these so-called authoritative women.

SO, men have the brains of a gnat and its all our fault?

[Straight_up]

Re: Mamas' Boys

Okay people, here's something for you:

A guy lives on his own, overseas, his mom is nowhere near him. He is very well educated, has an amazing job - can cook, has a brain, and all that jazz.

But, he tells every woman to go and "talk to his mommy" whenever they show interest. Now, what the hell is that?

Yes, he is independent but being so close to his mom, his mentality is messed.

[Aimee]

@Bonbonniere

The only problem I have with this statement is it makes men seem like spineless piles of mush that are almost willing to be manipulated by these so-called authoritative women.

SO, men have the brains of a gnat and its all our fault?

Bonbon … this totally cracked me up

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Okay people, here's something for you:

A guy lives on his own, overseas, his mom is nowhere near him. He is very well educated, has an amazing job - can cook, has a brain, and all that jazz.

But, he tells every woman to go and "talk to his mommy" whenever they show interest. Now, what the hell is that?

Yes, he is independent but being so close to his mom, his mentality is messed.

is shows that he has no interest in a love marriage and is more interested in having an arranged marriage. nothing wrong with either one.

[Jaanwar]

Okay people, here's something for you:

A guy lives on his own, overseas, his mom is nowhere near him. He is very well educated, has an amazing job - can cook, has a brain, and all that jazz.

But, he tells every woman to go and "talk to his mommy" whenever they show interest. Now, what the hell is that?

Yes, he is independent but being so close to his mom, his mentality is messed.

A possible interpretation issue SU. It could be out of respect for his mother, he wants her to have a say in this decision. Old school thinking, I fail to see something so horrible in it. Unless there are other details to it which you would like to add?

[AnGeL_EyEs]

@Jaanwar

A possible interpretation issue SU. It could be out of respect for his mother, he wants her to have a say in this decision. Old school thinking, I fail to see something so horrible in it. Unless there are other details to it which you would like to add?

agree :k:

[Jaanwar]

The only problem I have with this statement is it makes men seem like spineless piles of mush that are almost willing to be manipulated by these so-called authoritative women.

SO, men have the brains of a gnat and its all our fault?

Yes it could be, if you consider yourself amongst those manipulative authoritative women.

Well and your post seems a bit emotional considering a discussion and exchange of ideas.