Mama's Boy

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So i have come acrosss many posts by ladies here…in which they use this term a lot to describe their dislike of certain husbands..

I just want to know…

Please define what is a mama’s boy that you talk about?

and why do you people hate it so much?

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Mama's boy is someone who is not the wife's puppy.

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probably the blame goes to myself for introducing this term to Life1http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/377584-why-dont-women-like-mamas-boys.html

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mama's boy is the one who is like Nomi hahaha

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A mama's boy is someone who lets his mother influence his decision making process in a way where he stops considering anyone else in the equation.

When you're married, all of your decisions impact not one but two lives. Its irresponsible for one to willingly get married and then forget their duties towards their spouses by letting mother influence all of their decisions and lifestyle.

This excludes financially supporting and caring for aging parents of both husband and wife. That is an unquestionable responsibility both have. However, there are ways to live life so both mother and wife can be at peace with each other.

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girls hate mama's boy bcuz girls with so much emotional that they feel for parents & family accept the reality that they r going to marry means run a seprate home & they manage all their strong feelings to leave their parents so they cant bear a man who naturaly is less emotional to follow his mom!

she leaves her parents by struggeling her feelings then she doesnt wish someone prefer his parents in all decision of her life bcuz he feel he loves his mom or his mom feels her son is adorable!
this is bitter reality that most sons hide their weakness in name of culture like many many pakistanies here i saw defending joint system bcuz parents need care but this isnt abt parents its only abt Son parents caring that expected from all DIL...that i feel this is also bcuz moms raise their son to be attached to them....mostly mama's boy that if a wife say anything first parents should decide for it...
why u dont let ur mom run her home & let ur wife do same that later she wont feel she did for someone then in future she expect someone else to do for her! every one should do wat she wants in her own time that later face problem abt expecting another one.....
mama's boy is attach to mom cuz that mom's husband made her feel son is main for mother so be4 she treated to expect her son not her HUSBAND

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mama's boy are the types,
when you ask them what kind of a girl do you want to marry?
They smile shyly and say: whatever girl my mom chooses for me?
You think: awww look at him, he's such a good son... very shareef - (good sign for a future husband- yes yes)

Then you ask him: but still, you know like personal preference; she should be honest, playful type, serious etc.
He says: my mom knows everything i like, she will decide.

That's when you start grinding your teeth... then as one last try, you opt to a different approach ( after all your future life is at stake) : What will you absolutely like in your patner?, he says: wo mere maan say kabhi oonchi awaz men baat na karay bus...

Now you think: why the hell would anyone want to do that??! I love my parent too much and want people to respect them too, but I don't go on telling people this, because people have no reason to be disrespectful to them... And then you realize there's just no point in this discussion cz their is only one answer to all your questions.

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a mama's boy is the one who says he can divorce his wife in a heartbeat but cannot replace his mother. however literally true it may be, its still cruel to the wife. no person--man or woman-- is disposable just like that and those who view others esp a spouse are showing their own upbringing

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every boy is a mamas boy

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i'm pretty sure desi men love their mothers as they should
of course they would but after they get married, they need to act like grown ups and think on their own, the wife is somebody that just became a part of the family but she should also be given equal importance.

yes take mother's advice but the final decisions should take all people and opinions into consideration including that of the spouse. mama's boys don't do that

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:lifey:

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Ok.......got it.........from the definitions.......it seems the behavioiur becomes obvious only after two things

1- The marriage has happened
2- The couple have the MIL involved..

*if the couple don't live with the MIL then mama boy issues shouldn't be there...right?
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**so can you girls somehow detect the mama boy'ness in boy before you marry a person??

and is it a big NO NO or its something that you girls can compromise?
**

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It's like pakwoman said:

Makes a mummy's boy pretty obvious I think. And I do agree, why on earth would someone say that? That sort of respect is a given anyway, but when guys start demanding such stuff before anything has even happened, they start making us look bad.

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i don't think anyone would be stupid enough to say those things before......!

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^ you can just infer it. as reha said - his decisions, even his small daily stuff is influenced too much by his mother or even sometimes his whole family - hes financially independent, but not mentally or emotionally.
And yes many do say stuff like that... and i actually appreciate that a lot cz at least they are being honest about their views - which helps you make a decision. Maybe some girls are okay with marrying a mamma's boy... or maybe they have some maturing to undergo.

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That's easy.

  1. Any guy who's followed his mother's opinion (over that of his wife) at least once in a lifetime. or
  2. any guy who has made a decision, not conforming to the opinion of his wife, which she somehow (accurately or inaccurately) attributes to his mother, at least once in a lifetime.
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I think mama's boy is a creature who has terrible tusks and terrible claws and terrible teeth in his terrible jaws. His eyes are orange, his tongue is black and purple prickles all over his back.

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why are you always getting personal?

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I am 33 and I still live with me mah - does it makes me a Mama bhoy :konfused: