Mama's Boy

Lifestyle Relationships
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I am just kidding...i thought your post was intended for humour too......apologies if you are offended...seriously.... i have edited it..

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that's fine....thanks, i appreciate.

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Mama's boy is the one who chose to listen to his experienced mother than to his young immature wife

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Islam emphasizes that all relationships have rights. Children have rights over their parents. Parents have rights over their children. And in a marriage...a husband and wife have rights over one another. IMO...the Mama's Boy....label can result when the boundaries are being stepped on...when the rights are being transgressed or not fulfilled......and also when they're seems to be a lack of independent decision making skills in matters (especially in even the smaller ones),....and lack of assertiveness (even when one knows that the other person...be it your own parent....is in the wrong). I'm not saying that a husband should be disrespectful to his parents and blindly take his wife's side....nor am I suggesting that there be blind obedience toward parents (just because they're your parents)....but rather to consider the issues from various angles....from an Islamic perspective as well. It's not only your parents that you'll be questioned about in the next world......you'll be held accountable for how well you maintained your other relationships as well. And our religion encourages taking the moderation or the middle path....not extremism in any form.

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your answers are just so complete :)

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Mama's boy is the one who listen to mother of past instead of mother of future...

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I know :salute:

redvelvet are you 95 years old? :stuck_out_tongue:

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Being a mama’s boy only leads to unhappy marriages Nomi. Its not necessary that a couple get divorced…a lot of marriages end up suffering their whole lives.

Its a NO NO if you want to be happy in your marriage.

Nope. Its how you manage your relationships.

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Reha Jeeen

muje yaad aya

Kisi lerki ko ke na muje bi poem likeeein :halo:
kash koi guppan muje pyeeer kerti…:wub:

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Hasn't anyone ever heard of papa's boy?????

They exist, trust me!

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nomi

its not abt after marraige!
a mama's boy u will know after u will talk with him as role of beloved or someone proposed u or wife or girlfreind! cuz rather than that we girls r not male to have lots of boys as freinds arround us! so issue is when we take a role front a boy!

mama's boy is whom cant decide as an individual person & wants discusse all with his mom!
in big decision if u consult with others isnt matter but for every thing u say ask my mom means u r a mama's boy! after 18u should have an independent personality or atleast when u feel u can run a family u should be strong enough to take its responsibility not leave it to ur mom!!!!!!

& BIG NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO & even thoes who feel they love someone whom i feel their love is mama's boy i warn he is a kid & a girl cant adopt with a kid as rather she shows she want being indepent her inside needs a strong man whom she can trust not going to another women or anyone else to solve!

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if the couple lives separate from the 'mama'......you think there would still be issues??

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then every girl is a daddyz girl.

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Yes.

I respect my parents, listen to them, love them, care for them and many more things. I will do my best to be there for them in every possible way. Inshallah.

However, when it comes to my married life...my husband and I are the partners here. What we decide between us is how things will be in the end.

I wish more men thought like that instead of "my wife better not ask me to do anything my mom doesnt like otherwise I'll kick her to the curb". I know men who left their wives because their mothers didnt like them. One girl gave up her career, home, EVERYTHING and moved to Pakistan (even though she was an ABCD that had never set foot in Pak before) for her husband. He still left her because his mother was not happy with her. She ironed his clothes, shined his shoes, was madly in love with him but none of it mattered in the end. Because mummy ji ka moon bangaya.

You have to let go of the apron strings sometimes. Its not necessary that everything be a choice between mother and wife.

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^ so the couple in your above case was not living with the mama and still there was a problem??

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omg…:smack:

I dont recall a single post in this thread talking about the joint family system.

In the case above, they were living separately.

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or she could be a daddy's and mommy's girl....

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Listening is ok but blindly following is not

(like those guys who say 'I will always believe my mother over my wife because she gave birth to me'.. no exceptions or 'if she ever raises her voice to my mum I will divorce her, whatever my mum has done')..

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I don’t think most guys are that stupid or blinded by the love of their mothers :rolleyes:

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^ Did I say most of them were??? :rolleyes:

I have read posts by ‘back home’ guys on here (as well as on certain Islamic forums) who have said they’ll always choose/follow their mothers over their wives along with the statement ‘I can replace my wife but not my mother.’