Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
But wat happens with if its true love or just infactuation. Its just as complicated. WOuld u have done the same thing if the situation was like that. I think for people who r in love , through all the turbulances, they have something to fall on since scenarios like that do unfold even in the most arranged of marraiges.With that I mean, the mother liked the girl and wanted the girl to get married to her son, ...later as nature goes...Both of the ladies fight for the prized son/husband'd attention...=unhappy relationship based on expectations and wat not.
But anyway In my opinion if the guy did not LOVE the girl, and vice versa UNCONDITIONALLY...there'll be always something that 'd make him /her find reasons to retreat his/her steps backwards.
Family wise, yes there can be too much politics and wat not, But WHY DID THEY BOTH begin the relationship to begin with if they already knew that the will succumb to the external factors.? Its not an Indian movie either where life is HAPPILY EVER AFTER.
Amber, we can not look at true love with someone of the opposite gender as the only true love one has, what about the true love one has for their family, what about the trie love the beloved has for their family. Its when they clash and compete when things get murky and ugly
as far as people starting a relationship if they already knew theywill succumb to external pressures. You know, one can begin a relationship understanding but severaly underestimating the issues oen would face. Or the other people involved change their tune as time goes on.
life is not a movie, and some decisions are not easy decisions, but conditions are such that you have to make a decision. and you do. One may say life is not fair and I should not have to make this decision.
without going into my own details. I have had to make that decision, and i had to live with someone having to make that decision. It is shattering..and I dont know which one was worse.
But there is light at the end of the tunnel. had those things worked out, I would have never met begum, and she is the love of my life.
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
But anyway In my opinion if the guy did not LOVE the girl, and vice versa UNCONDITIONALLY...there'll be always something that 'd make him /her find reasons to retreat his/her steps backwards.
In my opinion, it does not matter if it was love or arranged marriage. Even if the people loved each other before marriage, they come up with excuse that theirs' was foolish behavior to get married and they were blinded by love. And also that they should have paid heed to their parent's concerns.
At the end of the day, it all depends on personal realization that once you have committed (love or arranged), it becomes ones own responsibility.
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
PakiPride...
The guy isnt a dick cos he liked you and then he realised he wasnt on you...initially you will always like the girl but then you may start to realise she isnt for you...so if you have doubts then the correct thing to do for both of you is to go your seperate ways...its not that the guy doesnt give a damn he just doesnt see a future...thats the point of the whole thread...your calling him a dumbass and saying he doesnt give a damn cos he doesnt recoprocate feelings...hows that his fault?...showing he cares is breaking it off not continuing in a relationship where he doesnt like the girl in order to preserve her feelings...you get what i mean?...
So yeah i am backing up some guys but im not suggesting that many are dicks...for instance you could be treating a girl as a timepass...she cares for you...you never cared for her and you dropped it...thats dickhead behaviour...and obviously the standard things...cheating etc...
And as for gals being sensitive im not disputing that...guys are too...thats human nature...all im saying there is a correct way of dealing wirh something...
yea so u'll like her n thn realize she aint "the1" n break it off
gud...u broke it off coz u dint wanna lead her on
thas wat ur tryin 2 say rite?
well if u jus LIKE her thn y get in2 a relationship with her
u cud b JUS FRIENDZ if u only like her
gettin in2 a relationship makez thingz alil serious...well atleast 4 her
n tellin a gal "i realli like u" iz gnna make her think that ur serious abt her
if u wanna show her u care thn u shudnt say stuff like that thas gnna make her think ur realli in2 her n serious
so yea the guy iz dumass if he tellz her this n that n thn jus breakz it off with her
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
^You cant really love someone without ever being in a relationship with them... it starts with "liking" and progresses to love...
Most girls consider it to be serious when the guy says I LOVE YOU, not *I REALLY LIKE YOU*...
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
^You cant really love someone without ever being in a relationship with them... it starts with "liking" and progresses to love...
Most girls consider it to be serious when the guy says I LOVE YOU, not *I REALLY LIKE YOU*...
if u jus like sum1 thn jus b frenz with em
n if it turnz out 2 b luv thn yea they cud do w/e they want...
n abt wat most girlz consider
there r A LOT of galz who take "i really like you" 2 serious
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
Here is the whole story of male bashing women. They start off being immature, young and innocent...you know like everyone else. Than they have this fairy tale about bad boys, men with money and etc. What happens is that fairy tales turns into nightmare that leaves them extremely sad and frustrated. So, they go after other men and start labelling them in all sorts of categories....thus the tain tain that you hear. Most of the time guys look at them with their mouth open thinking what the hell is she talking about? Others, try to understand...if you preach one grave for everyone and everyone is accountable for his/her own deed than it applies to you too. If you have been cheated, duped and played on, try to confront the person that cheated on you rather take taking the anger on everyone else and acting like a drama queen.
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
Here is the whole story of male bashing women. They start off being immature, young and innocent...you know like everyone else. Than they have this fairy tale about bad boys, men with money and etc. What happens is that fairy tales turns into nightmare that leaves them extremely sad and frustrated. So, they go after other men and start labelling them in all sorts of categories....thus the tain tain that you hear. Most of the time guys look at them with their mouth open thinking what the hell is she talking about? Others, try to understand...if you preach one grave for everyone and everyone is accountable for his/her own deed than it applies to you too. If you have been cheated, duped and played on, try to confront the person that cheated on you rather take taking the anger on everyone else and acting like a drama queen.
Wah !! Couldn't have said it any better. This EXACTLY is the story of "FEW" cases I have observed.
Thanks brother for putting it comprehensively.
and the following is the beautiful puch line
If you have been cheated, duped and played on, try to confront the person that cheated on you rather take taking the anger on everyone else and acting like a drama queen
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
Well then they're just creating problems for themselves.... anyone male friend of mine can"really like" me, but that doesnt mean I'm gonna start fantasizing about marrying him, having his babies, living happily ever after.... we women need to be more realistic in our pursuits and in our expectations, maybe then we won't end up burned and crying all the time. I mean I can understand a 12 year old girl thinking thoughts of forever with a guy who tells her he "really likes" her... I mean, that one sentence can be interpreted in so many ways... but for women, or teenage girls, I mean come on... that's just you playing yourself...
if u jus like sum1 thn jus b frenz with em
n if it turnz out 2 b luv thn yea they cud do w/e they want...
n abt wat most girlz consider
there r A LOT of galz who take "i really like you" 2 serious
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
PakiPride...
Heres the deal...i link up girls and only get into a relationship once i like them...
In the before relationship period where i am trying to work out whether the girl is for me or not she may get dropped...
Now what exactly is wrong with that scenario?...however it is this exact scenario that tend to lead to the wrath of the opposite sex...
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
PakiPride...
Heres the deal...i link up girls and only get into a relationship once i like them...
In the before relationship period where i am trying to work out whether the girl is for me or not she may get dropped...
Now what exactly is wrong with that scenario?...however it is this exact scenario that tend to lead to the wrath of the opposite sex...
lol aite
screw wat i sed
wat ur saying makes sense
Re: Male bashing...is it a crime to not like you back?...
ok wth is goin on here?!? i smell sumthing fishy here.....r u guys tryin 2 put yr personal differences into this topic? sorrie for my ignorance i dun know any1 of u but it just seems so...anywayz i agree with what "Naughty by nature" said in his 1st post....i believe whether its a man or a women they shud be able 2 deal with the rejection...its not the end of teh world...maybe u both were nt meant 2 be 2gether....i know it must be very hurting n difficult but u shud be happy that u learned abt it b4 it was 2 late...u shud respect honesty in any case...
