Some of you ladies are psychos i swear…
These Dushwari posts in particular are quite creepy…thing is they are pretty commonplace…
Girl likes boy…boy likes girl…girl starts to love boy…boy realises he doesnt actually like girl…
Sounds reasonable to me…so what boy does is he breaks it off…what does the girl do…she will moan about what a dick the guy was and i did this and that for him…they will probably spread ugly rumours about him…lol i know a girl who claimed her ex to be violent just to get at him and ruin his reputation…nothing like a woman scorned…
But what is the mans crime?..all he did was realise that the girl who he thought he liked initially wasnt for him…
However men end up getting treated as if it is their responsibility to reciprocate any love…would you prefer if i lied to you and told you i cared?..
I made a mistake of being honest with a girl once…i told her that i really liked her and she was a nice girl and i had had fun but i wasnt feeling her and i thought we should break it off…instead of appreciating my honesty the girl went schiz on me…afterwards i learnt to just stop calling lol…I guess having a guy tell you he isnt into you is worse than you ladies just talking about what a dick he is…
I just want you to understand its clique i know but it isnt that there is a problem with you…its just you arent for me…it may take me one date to realise that or it may take a while…that doesnt mean that you yourself have any inadequacies…all it means is we werent compatible…wh does it have to hurt your pride every time a guy leaves…
I myself have wanted things to work out with certain girls and they havent…its easy to assume the girls a ***** but really its just you dont mean that much to them and they arent the right girl for you…for me thats no loss…there are girls where i have meant a lot to them…problem is they havent always meant that much to me…the challenge in life is to find someone who reciprocates our love…people that dont arent bad people they just arent for us…So stop moaning about how bad the opposite sex is…you just havent found the right person for you…
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I doubt anyone really sincerely feels that the opposite sex is scum... but for many people rejection is very hard to handle, and they take the embarassment and mask it in anger.. which only ends up psychologically hurting them more in the long haul...
I think everyone has felt bitter toward men/women as a whole after getting burnt by a few ppl at some point in life... some just get over it quicker than others and handle it better (maturely, realistically)... while others feel better about themselves by trashing their ex or avenging the insult...
I think its always good to end something even if theres a slight doubt...Better that you have a failed relationship than a failed marriage..
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When the pain of a failed relationship is fresh, our minds are not at their most rational and practical. It's easy for you to say, someone has every right to back out of a relationship, that he did not commit a crime, etc, but look at it from the point of view of the one whos been "wronged" or lost.
Don't get me wrong, **I understand your point and you're right, **however: when something happens very recently, it's perfectly normal to lash out in the first few days/weeks/months. You may use other means to let out your anger but that doesn't give you the right to call someone a psycho because they choose to let it out over here.
I have been hurt in the past, all of us have been in one way or another, so I am speaking from experience wheN i say the only thing that helps ease hte pain is time. With time, you forget the hurt, and your mind clears and you start seeing things from a more rational point of view. I've had problems wiht people in the past, and while at the beginning I was angry and thought ill of them, eventually the hurt died down and I realized, that htey are in fact good people, but it just didnt' work out for one reason or another.
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.............the only thing that helps ease hte pain is time. With time, you forget the hurt, and your mind clears and you start seeing things from a more rational point of view.
I agree a bit but not totally. In such times, the person needs friends who can reveal the truth to him/her and not let the person go down in a whirlpool of rejection and desperation by letting him/her sob over stories over and over again.
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^True
I can understand what Dushwari sister is going through, so I don't mind her words anymore, but I can't understand why on earth do some people generalize about men in her thread, JUST to add fuel to fire or to put salt to her wounds ??? What excuses do they have for such a big crime/sin ??
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I mean generalizing about men by including all the men in the same catagory of bad people, which is the injustice of the highest level to the masoom, maskeen, farishta sift, be-zarar, aajiz, parhezgar, muttaqui, innocent, angel like, insaan parwar, Khuda khauf rakhne waley, modest, pure,.....etc men of the earth.
p.s. Ofcourse I don't mean to say that I am included in them, just fighting for their rights.
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I mean generalizing about men by including all the men in the same catagory of bad people, which is the injustice of the highest level to the masoom, maskeen, farishta sift, be-zarar, aajiz, parhezgar, muttaqui, innocent, angel like, insaan parwar, Khuda khauf rakhne waley, modest, pure,.....etc men of the earth.
p.s. Ofcourse I don't mean to say that I am included in them, just fighting for their rights.
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dush is a very nice person and its not nice to say anything about her.The only she is having hard time and we should help her because she is disturb,instead of criticising her.
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I completely agree that she is a nice person and I totally respect her. However, as a fellow Gupshupper she has the right to know if she is making a mistake.
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To those defending Dushwari and Dushwari herself I apologise if i seem horrible...im just not one of those tell you what you want to hear people...i prefer to tell it how i see it...
And having been a victim of scorned women before in a big way im entitled to my opinion...whoever finishes things whether they are male or female is always seen as the villain and depending on the maturity of the individual the kind of exaggerations and rumours spread by the supposed 'victim' are ridiculous and unfounded most of the time...Someone close to me nearly got thrown out of uni cos a scorned girl claimed he had been violent towards her...that was his punishment for not liking her...thankfully for him people knew she had a screw loose and he didnt lose face but who knows douibts may still linger with some people about his supposed violent tendencies...
When something goes wrong we automatically attribute blame to the person who breaks it off...im just saying that if they have done tangible things like cheat on you then you can be bitter but to hate someone cos they didnt love you isnt fair especially since they did the decent thing and broke it off...
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NBN,
be God fearing, at least.
have a heart, before you shower everyone with your impoliteness and insecurities as a male, i suppose, who is not able to acknolwedge life's most deep hurtful events, as different than some leisure sports!
Some of you ladies are psychos i swear...
These Dushwari posts in particular are quite creepy...thing is they are pretty commonplace...
Girl likes boy...boy likes girl...girl starts to love boy...boy realises he doesnt actually like girl...
Sounds reasonable to me...so what boy does is he breaks it off...what does the girl do...she will moan about what a dick the guy was and i did this and that for him...they will probably spread ugly rumours about him...lol i know a girl who claimed her ex to be violent just to get at him and ruin his reputation...nothing like a woman scorned...
But what is the mans crime?...all he did was realise that the girl who he thought he liked initially wasnt for him...
However men end up getting treated as if it is their responsibility to reciprocate any love...would you prefer if i lied to you and told you i cared?...
I made a mistake of being honest with a girl once...i told her that i really liked her and she was a nice girl and i had had fun but i wasnt feeling her and i thought we should break it off...instead of appreciating my honesty the girl went schiz on me...afterwards i learnt to just stop calling lol...I guess having a guy tell you he isnt into you is worse than you ladies just talking about what a dick he is...
I just want you to understand its clique i know but it isnt that there is a problem with you...its just you arent for me...it may take me one date to realise that or it may take a while...that doesnt mean that you yourself have any inadequacies...all it means is we werent compatible...wh does it have to hurt your pride every time a guy leaves...
I myself have wanted things to work out with certain girls and they havent...its easy to assume the girls a ***** but really its just you dont mean that much to them and they arent the right girl for you...for me thats no loss...there are girls where i have meant a lot to them...problem is they havent always meant that much to me...the challenge in life is to find someone who reciprocates our love...people that dont arent bad people they just arent for us...So stop moaning about how bad the opposite sex is...you just havent found the right person for you...
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:) No offence,, . :)
To those defending Dushwari and Dushwari herself I apologise if i seem horrible...im just not one of those tell you what you want to hear people...i prefer to tell it how i see it...
And having been a victim of scorned women before in a big way im entitled to my opinion...whoever finishes things whether they are male or female is always seen as the villain and depending on the maturity of the individual the kind of exaggerations and rumours spread by the supposed 'victim' are ridiculous and unfounded most of the time...Someone close to me nearly got thrown out of uni cos a scorned girl claimed he had been violent towards her...that was his punishment for not liking her...thankfully for him people knew she had a screw loose and he didnt lose face but who knows douibts may still linger with some people about his supposed violent tendencies...
When something goes wrong we automatically attribute blame to the person who breaks it off...im just saying that if they have done tangible things like cheat on you then you can be bitter but to hate someone cos they didnt love you isnt fair especially since they did the decent thing and broke it off...
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Dear ume- zareefah,
thanks you so much. may Allah bless you with a true and honest lover for all times to come & if you have someone already committed to you, he may never evr leave you.
Amen.
Dushwari
dush is a very nice person and its not nice to say anything about her.The only she is having hard time and we should help her because she is disturb,instead of criticising her.
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sorry, Sara
but you are denying.
i am glad that you can forgive or get over.
i cannot. Allah knows, and the one who left me knows too.
When the pain of a failed relationship is fresh, our minds are not at their most rational and practical. It's easy for you to say, someone has every right to back out of a relationship, that he did not commit a crime, etc, but look at it from the point of view of the one whos been "wronged" or lost.
Don't get me wrong, **I understand your point and you're right, **however: when something happens very recently, it's perfectly normal to lash out in the first few days/weeks/months. You may use other means to let out your anger but that doesn't give you the right to call someone a psycho because they choose to let it out over here.
I have been hurt in the past, all of us have been in one way or another, so I am speaking from experience wheN i say the only thing that helps ease hte pain is time. With time, you forget the hurt, and your mind clears and you start seeing things from a more rational point of view. I've had problems wiht people in the past, and while at the beginning I was angry and thought ill of them, eventually the hurt died down and I realized, that htey are in fact good people, but it just didnt' work out for one reason or another.
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there is a distinction between NOT caring, and accepting as well as believing in uncaring ways of being.
i am neither.
i do care.
you did care too.
times, life experiences, dreams, age and maturity, self confidence and especially the bonding itself, characterizes the real strength of a relationship in man and woman who are true to each other.
i never felt that he was skipping this thought, or maybe i was and am badly mistaken.
yet, my heart tells me, he has other pressures and that is why i want to be there with him, if only he realizes that.
May Allah keep bad men away and sincere but quiet men, the ability to come forward and say what they must. Amen.
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NbN, you arent the brightest kid on the block it seems. If some one is expressing feelings you should know how to handle them.
If get upset by such threads, the simplest solution, dont read em :k:
Dushwari, let NbN do buk buk, like I said, not the brightest boy
The best solution for (almost) everything is debate.