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after reading & watching all the stuff at GS, i have decided to cut cake on my walima day. but since i’m not much aware of western culture & my hubby is coming from U.S. so want to have some really nice ideas. so before finalizing & telling my inlaws i want to all the guppies living abroad to help me out in understanding all western traditions. i wouldbe really greatful 2 all u guys :slight_smile:

CONFUSIONS:

  1. cutting Cake… is it important to have 2-3 buildings of cake?? (sorry dont know what ppl call this type of cake???)

  • how i should cut it? is it like this me n my hubby hold the knief together n cut it? after to do afterwards?? Pardon my ignorance :smack:, do i have to put a spoon full of cake in my hubby’s mouth :confused: ?? should i use fork or spoon for that?? :frowning:

  • i saw so many nice pics of cakes at GS.. there r always so many flowers on cakes, is it personal choice or flowers r must on wedding cakes?? are they real flowers? isn’t it unhygienic having plants on the cake & later eat it?? :hmmmm:

  • i saw in few pics there r always 2 knieves on the table (1 lil longer,1 broad).. i should use which knief to cut the cake??

  • do i have to put soft drinks glasses on the table either?? after cutting cakes do we have to sip the drinks or its just an optional?? (drinking in glasses)??, & if yes then how to??? :smack2: should i forward the glass to hubby & he will forward his glass to me? or should we drink our own drinks by ourselves lol?? :smiley:

  • & ohh yes..do i have to buy all the set of matching pair of glasses with matching pair of knieves? (all come together in a pack)..(but thats really expensive,atleast in pk :()

ok finish for cake now coming to personal touches… (I hope its not bothering u :D)

coming to Personal touches:

-i’m thinking to personalize few things at my wedding, so for the favours do i have to print names only on the ribbons? or it canbe printout on boxes too???

  • a thankyou note by couple or their families placed on every table… how it shouldbe? it has to be a folded card like ordinary greeting card or can be a note??

  • what is program cards??

Personalized Napkins:

-where can we get those personalized napkins made in Lahore?? any idea?? i has to be a fabric material or can we personalize the ordinary tissue papers too?? if yes..than frm where in LHR?? :frowning:

-all these nakins shouldbe kept on the plates or inside glasses etc?? means how to decorate them??

Now being desi how to decorate dood palai glass? (this ones for u “SILSILA” ::p:, any idea by anyone else too??

and 1 more thing comng to my mind thats what to put inside the favour boxes?? dry fruits, sugar coated eggs and???

SGC, Pakifairy, silsila, chanda-kh, shay, sara, sahar, gina, choozy, ur president, etc etc etc… you all r frm abroad & r experienced so plz plz plz help me out in understanding all these stuff & not to sound really Stupid infront of all my inlaws :smack2:

Love you all “Hugs”

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I hope this helps :slight_smile:

I think you’re describing what we call “layers.” And yes, wedding cakes here almost always have multiple layers. I’ve been to one wedding where they tried to do a cake cutting with a sheet cake (with just 1 layer) and something about it just didn’t look right.

If your goal is to duplicate common practice in Western culture, you and your husband would hold the knife together and cut the cake, then feed each other some cake.

There are plenty of wedding cakes that don’t have flowers on them…with designs made from colored frosting instead. The flowers you see on cakes are usually real flowers that have been cleaned thoroughly for that purpose, and are just there for display. They’re removed when the cake is taken back to the kitchen to be sliced up for the guests. You can also have edible flowers made from sugar icing…but they don’t look nearly as realistic.

The “broad knife” you see is a spatula, which is used to lift up and serve the slice after its been cut. You would use the long knife to cut the cake.

I don’t think you need to have soft drinks on the cake table…in fact, I’m not even sure where you’re getting the idea that its customary here?

In Western weddings, those matching glasses are used for serving champagne to the bride and groom. Since I doubt you’re going to be serving champagne at your wedding, I really think they would be unnecessary for you. Personally, I think using champagne flutes for other beverages looks tacky.

I don’t think there’s any hard & fast rule about this. By favors, I’m assuming you’re talking about the bidh packets you’ll be handing out…I’ve seen ones that weren’t personalized at all, ones where the ribbons had names printed on them, and ones where the pouches had names on them. I think its a matter of personal preference.

If you’re trying to follow Western tradition, thank you cards are typically hand written by the bride and groom on cards and mailed out to guests after the wedding. Leaving notes on the table would be considered impersonal and in poor taste.

Essentially, they’re schedules of the evening’s events/rasms.

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no i dont think so

i think she is talkin about a cake like this

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I think Janab has covered it, but I'd say that a 'tiered' cake is also better as then all the guests can see the cake. Also when it comes to actually cutting the cake it might be better to have just immediate family standing by your side, and have the guests remain seated as then everyone gets a clear view, and you get to share your special moment together without a crowd.

You might consider going to cut the cake immediatley after you make your enterance with the groom. I saw this done once, and it made it seem like a more organised valima, as the guests were asked to stand, but remain standing by their tables for the entrance, so were already on their feet.

As for the 'palai' glass, I guess you're refering to the doodh palai rasam? If so, when I decorated a glass for my cousin, I stuck beads (in keeping with the wedding theme) around the rim, and placed it on a decorated flat basket in the centre of rose petals, you could use a plate instead. We used a colourful curly plastic straw for him to drink from.

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I forgot to say that you could put wrapped chocolates in the favours too, and sugared almonds.

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Wedding Dresses - Wedding Cakes - Wedding Planning - Unique Wedding Ideas is a great resource- they’ve got a really great Answers section plus hundreds of pictures of cakes so i have no doubt you’ll find the one you love! cakes usually average 3-tiers i think.

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First of all I really don’t think that there’s anyone in lahore that does multi-tier cakes =( so u’d have to chose a really big cake!

For the doodh pilai glass u can stick crystals, just glue the bottom and wind around gota or any ribbon that works with u’re theme! You cud even attach fresh tube-roses and roses to the glass!

This is what I did for sumone wedding

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ummm there is kitchen kuisine in lahore and maybe a multi tier cake can be ordered from there ... for my own something we had two tier cake .. lahore it can be done for sure!

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If you're trying to follow Western tradition, thank you cards are typically hand written by the bride and groom on cards and mailed out to guests after the wedding. Leaving notes on the table would be considered impersonal and in poor taste.

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Actually I have seen this done before and it didnt seem impersonal or in poor taste either. It was just a small lovely note with some short poem or quote about love and marriage and underneath it said something like thanks for coming to share in the celebration of our special day and please remember us in your duas etc. Its something different from thank you card that are sent after the wedding. You know how tables usually have numbers on them, you can even combine the table numbers with this card if you want (number on one side and message on the other)

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  • what is program cards??

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Program cards are cards left at each table to inform the guests about the program for the night. Like X:00 arrival of guests, X:00 arrival of barat, X:00 arrival of bride, X:00 dinner, X:00 cake cutting, X:00 rukhsati etc etc according to whatever you have in your program

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i wouldnt go over board with the personal touches,keep it simple as it will stand out more, if u have personalised napkins, favours,thank u cards etc etc it may be too much on the table. I would have personalised favours on the box or ribbon but - not both and keep the napkins plain! i would make the menu card a decent size, but the thank u cards smaller.

napkins should be either in the glass or beneath the cuterly.

for dood palai, smash up some glass, glue the sides of a wine glass and stick the broken glass on it, thats what i did, then put a ribbon round the top, plus at the bottom, it shud look lovely. if the glass doesnt stick, may be some glitter?

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d pilai glass i’ve seen

that is the prettiest doodh pilai glass i’ve seen

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that sounds cool! do you have a picture of it by any chance?

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will post one later on tonight, but i think most ppl have seen my glass as it matched my lengha so well lol! i'm at work, so when i get home - will post it

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In england, we have 3 tiered cakes usually, the smallest and top layer cake is traditionally NOT cut at all during the wedding, but instead it is left to mature and is "saved for the baby", so when the baby is born, they christen it (take it to church to b blessed forgiven for its sins and formally made a christian), after the christening the old cake is brought out for everyone to enjoy. My old cookery teacher said she had her first baby after about 9 years and the icing on her cake had become mouldy but the cake itself was "delicious!"

Bear in mind that the type of cake we are talking about is stuffed full of dried fruits and brandy, then iced in super hard air tight icing.

Anyhow, thats my two pence worth, its just a little bit of culture on the cakes.

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^ interesting!
in north america, they save the top-tier of the cake and freeze it to serve at the couple's first wedding anniversary. i didn't do this- eating one year old cake is not appealing, even if it was my wedding cake! lol

بن گئے ہم گھر جمائی شادی کے بعد
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^ You have the better deal. I'd prefer to eat 1 year old frozen cake than 9 year old mouldy cake stuffed with raisins thats been stored in a tin in a damp cupboard for years!!!

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^LOL!

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here it is

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