making breakfast is an issue

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

how idiotic is that?
I mean it's much easier to make a cup of tea, or even breakfast, than to make an issue of everything no?
Take the easy way out please.

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

you're right....he's probably not going to ask her to make food for you if you are unwell......but your behaviour towards his mother will probably determine whether or not he makes food for you himself.....

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

well im not married to her? so why should i be making her food?

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You sound like a petulant child. There have been many times in the past where you've complained that your husband doesn't initiate gift-giving toward your own family or he didn't display the level of consideration toward them that you'd like. And I doubt that you'd have liked it if he had said that "I'm not married to your folks, so I don't have to care about them." And now if you're gonna say that you can uphold the same attitude as him....two wrongs don't make a right. His approach was crap....but your attitude or justification isn't the best either.

When you leave, he'll be under greater influence from his mom and pissing him off on your way out is not going to help you. It could potentially place you in a more vulnerable position than you're in now.

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well i didnt say this to him obviously. i know how i sound but he doesnt live with his inlaws or my siblings his gift giving or whatever is once a year isse not a daiy chore like mine.

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

Because it will make your husband happy and help make your marriage stronger. Growing up, you never saw your mother doing anything that she didn't want to but she did it anyway b/c it made your dad happy?

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Is your borther married, nadz? What if your sister in law has the same way of thinking as yours?

I remember that in one of your old posts once (why do I remember this?) you mentioned that you would break off your bhabhi's (if you had one or somethings) nose if she behaved in a certain way to your mom.

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Sometimes I feel Nadz is some vigilante. In guise of her complaint threads, she shows the ugly side of a DIL who doesnt even want to make tea for her husband's mother. So you saw, almost none appreciated this move and rather made all of us realize that its really not an issue if you have to make tea for your MIL. So, I guess Nadz deserves a thanks from us :D

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i am sure your MIL doesnt says this when she is making dinner and lunch for the entire family. how would you
feel if your brother's wife acted like this with your mom?

one thing need to understand is that your husband will always be your MIL's son and you can not change that relationship. what you can do is gain respect by letting go of your present attitude.

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Nadz, sometimes I wonder how old you are. I just can not believe you are married with two kids. You need patience and flexibility. You should learn how to bend sometimes so you do not end up breaking.

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where was kaamwali when all this transpired? y she no make chai for universe?

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If ur mil said that she is making it herself then that's fantastic, your husband is being such a woman.

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Would u had said the same thing if it was ur mother, sister, father or brother instead of MIL..

Imagine after 25 years ur DIL behave like u r behaving now.

Grow up girl.

I feel bad for ur husband. I wonder how he is tolerating u

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

Grow up!! You will gain a hell of a lot more respect . Please do not teach your daughters this kind of mentality. Rather teach them to be kind, open hearted, loving women... But please don't be selfish. You want to be treated like a queen without earning it! How do you expect to win your husbands love, respect and trust by thinking so negatively about his mother?

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there is no part of a marriage contract that says you must make food for your spouse......why then do you feel that you have to for your husband?

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Re: making breakfast is an issue

This just shows how much ready we are just for a tiny argument/quarrel..However, the issue isn't a huge one.