making breakfast is an issue

[Paheli00]

Re: making breakfast is an issue

@Kinzz

Your husband has agreed to move back to England and he doesn’t always support his mother; he sides with you as well and is willing to admit when she is wrong. Why can’t you meet him half-way? What he asked you to do was not such a huge deal. His approach wasn’t the best, I admit. But you could have chosen to diffuse the tension by saying Ill try to do that next time; baat khatam. As I said you are going in March so try to leave on a positive note. Not every issue requires a thread. Let some things roll off your shoulders and you will preserve your sanity, peace, and relationships.

:k: Very well said!

Nadz: If not for yourself or your marriage, then at least for the sake of your 2 children, you really need to learn how to pick and choose your battles with your husband and his family. Leaving your MIL’s house and moving back to UK was a battle worth fighting…and YOU WON! With this stupid chai incident…whether or not your husband/MIL is right or wrong doesn’t matter. What you need to realize is that this is not a battle worth fighting. With a stupid situation like this…you should just say that you didn’t mean any disrespect and next time you’ll be sure to make a cup for her. End of story.

Also Nadz, there are many women in countries like Pakistan who are literally physically abused, held hostage, and tortured by their husbands and in-laws. The fact that your husband agreed to you moving to UK with the kids is a major blessing b/c he (and your MIL) could’ve easily put their foot down and said “no way”. For you to compare your situation to slavery is a slap in the face to other women who actually experience true slavery. I know you get frustrated at your situation…but PLEASE remember to count the blessings you do have now and then.