interesting thread. My hubby often uses the religion card when I refuse him. He says stuff like"do you know how much gunnah you'll get for refusing me?" I don't really reply, but in my head i think well, its your job to make me happy in islam and to respect my wishes so its not as clear cut as my refusal making me a sinner.
Its a question of libido. Our frequency really doesn't match. This leads to lots of moodiness on the part of hubby.....I don't have a solution as yet. Sometimes you do just have to submit for an easy life. As i know the consequences if I don't: he won't speak to me properly and there will be a bad atmosphere. but at other times, I just think what the hell, I really just want to go to sleep so leave me alone!