Mail Order bride?

[Bobby1]

Re: Mail Order bride?

BTW, surviving in a chitty marriage is not a measure of success, I would rather have a great relationship for a few years than a dull boring one forever. Sometimes the chemistry is such that a night with one person is better than a thousand with another, Don’t settle for a boring, dull calculated relationship go crazy, go wild bring the house down. If you haven’t dated you haven’t explored and discovered yourself Settling down here involves in discovering yourself first

[SaeedinPakistan]

Re: Mail Order bride?

@Bobby1

You can get killed driving anyways doesn’t mean you can drive drunk or recklessly when you know a person for a long time you are bound to have a better understanding. What could have been a nightmare date ends up being a nightmare life. The ghettos sprawling all over Europe with thousands of people on welfare does prove that adjusting could be a challenge. UK had to change their immigration laws to combat that. I had an Indian mortgage broker sit in my show home today, she was driving a BMW, tall gorgeous in a skirt blouse but overlooked to use deodorant and stunk up the joint. People educated here have a better understanding of these basic things.

And what constitutes a long time? It’s not like people don’t interact at all before tying the knot. That’d be a major flag right there, if someone said, “You gotta sign the papers before we talk or anything.” You can’t be lazy about. You gotta take out the time to go back home and actually meet people. Because you’re right, some people just don’t feel right. They might be great people but they aren’t good for you.

I don’t know about the ghettos but for me personally things are relatively easier here than back home. I’m not gonna lie, I’ve had help and that does matter.

Like you can’t teach someone to use deodorant or take showers. Right? People adapt and they adapt fast if they have help.

[SaeedinPakistan]

Re: Mail Order bride?

@Bobby1

BTW, surviving in a chitty marriage is not a measure of success, I would rather have a great relationship for a few years than a dull boring one forever.

I wouldn’t ask someone to stay in a crappy marriage\relationship either. My advice to all my friends is to delay have kids after marriage until they’re somewhat sure things are gonna workout. I’d assume divorce is lot less messy when there are no kids involved. Sure it’s a lot a paper work but you don’t have to worry about messing up your kids.

**Sometimes the chemistry is such that a night with one person is better than a thousand with another,
**
Maybe. But that’s a risk you take going the traditional arranged marriage route.

**Don’t settle for a boring, dull calculated relationship go crazy, go wild bring the house down. If you haven’t dated you haven’t explored and discovered yourself Settling down here involves in discovering yourself first.
**
Again, do just that if that’s what you wanna do. Just do go about saying one way is better than the other. Each route has its merits and merits. And you choose what you think would work best for you.

PS: I don’t think can convince you that bringing someone from Pakistan is a viable option and you can’t convince me that’ll it’s guaranteed to be a disaster. I think this discussion is futile at least here on the forums. Hey, but if you ever happen to come by Houston we could definitely talk about this over some drinks. The first round is on me

[Bobby1]

Re: Mail Order bride?

@SaeedinPakistan

I wouldn’t ask someone to stay in a crappy marriage\relationship either. My advice to all my friends is to delay have kids after marriage until they’re somewhat sure things are gonna workout. I’d assume divorce is lot less messy when there are no kids involved. Sure it’s a lot a paper work but you don’t have to worry about messing up your kids.

**Sometimes the chemistry is such that a night with one person is better than a thousand with another,
**
Maybe. But that’s a risk you take going the traditional arranged marriage route.

**Don’t settle for a boring, dull calculated relationship go crazy, go wild bring the house down. If you haven’t dated you haven’t explored and discovered yourself Settling down here involves in discovering yourself first.
**
Again, do just that if that’s what you wanna do. Just do go about saying one way is better than the other. Each route has its merits and merits. And you choose what you think would work best for you.

PS: I don’t think can convince you that bringing someone from Pakistan is a viable option and you can’t convince me that’ll it’s guaranteed to be a disaster. I think this discussion is futile at least here on the forums. Hey, but if you ever happen to come by Houston we could definitely talk about this over some drinks. The first round is on me

Thank you for your input,the point of the discussion was never to change your mind. It was meant to be provocative and encourage looking at things from all different angles. If after looking at everything this is what works for you then my best wishes for you.

I had given my nephew the advice to look at internet dating around 5 yrs ago and he got angry with me. Now he is living with this amazing Syrian girl. Guess how they got together?