qtc88
July 31, 2012, 2:41am
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Re: Maikay jana
Oh man Sara, I love you for opening this thread! I’ve noticed in Pakistan married women in Pakistan have there “haftay ki baari” (like specific days in the week when they go “back to their parents house” and it is like set in stone! When I came back to home after my first extended visit to Karachi post shaadi, I brought this up to my husband, and he just gave me a weird look and said “you see your mom whenever you want, what’s the big deal?” and it was true…I lived like 6 miles away from my mom’s house. For those of us that have been raised outside Pakistan, and still live in the same city as our parents, I don’t think it’s an issue. I think it’s probably different when you’re living in a joint family system, and not alone as is the norm here.
I saw my Ammi all the time. I’d pop in whenever I wanted, she’d call me every other day or so to come pick up something she cooked for my husband (never for me of course
With my papa, it was every sunday. After Zuhr namaz, he’d come over for lunch and stay until dinner. Set in stone. Sundays were Papa days.
My husband had one weird quirk though…he would not care how often I went over to my mom’s or how long I stayed over there with one exception..he wanted me to be home before he got home from work. He hates coming home to an empty house. So as soon as 5:00pm would hit, I’d leave my mom’s house and she’d be like “kyoon jaarahi ho, usko yahin bulaalo..” Nope. I had to be home (especially after the kids were born!) I would have to be home before him. Kind of cute, haina?
I never really spent the night over at my mom’s house, until I started having all the health problems/surgeries/concieving issues. Then it was a god send. I miss my ammi’s house. :hinna:
You’re story is so sweet and is the reason why I want to marry someone who lives in the same city as me! I would love to have the luxury of having mom so close to me.
