TipuSultan, who ever made the rule that all housework is to be done by the housewife?
It's not in Islam. It's a cultural remnant of a patriarchial society, and as Islam doesn't advocae for patriarchial or matriarchial but rather is fairly egalitarian, it is no suprise that Islam advocates men to help their women out at home.
Maybe you might not realize it, but housework is a lot of LABOR work. It doesn't require any intelligence really, unless you're inventing new recipes and really into your cooking (in which case you can go to cooking school or formally learn new recipes and how to do mixing of flavors, etc).
So why is it fair that now your daughter will study and work, and at the same time be expected to do all the housework by the susral?
There are families that just are not expecting this anymore, and rather have an approach where EVERYBODY pitches in with cooking and cleaning. Look for those sorts of families for your daughter. It is totally not a DUTY at all, and I can guarantee you if you got off your behind from GS and helped out in the kitchen with your wife, your wife would greatly apprecaite it and you'd probably be more useful than you are griping about your Rishtaa woes in life1.
Dear PCG
I may have a bit of Islamic knowledge, at one part it is true that Islam does not force women to household work and sole responsibility of providing given to man, on other part Islam also encourage women to do her best to take up house hold responsibilities.
I agree that it is not easy for a lady to handle both, and I also agree with you that so called LABOR work does not need any intellect, but today young couples aspires compatibility more then anything for that education and other exposure is more important.
I would rather my daughter contribute whatever possible in susral rather then hiding behind oh i am working so could not do anything (off course others need to chip in as well).
But when come to starting family, she need to scarify (if needed) her career for children, thus become full time house wife thus taking up full responsibility of so called LABOR job as well.