I don’t know anyone who’s like this. Well, except my MIL.
At the end of the day, who’s going to be the main breadwinner? My husband. Doesn’t matter how much I study or what career I have, I will give it up to have children and while my children are young. So yes, it’s important that I can cook and personally I’d like to cook well.
Don’t underestimate the power of good food. We all love our mum’s cooking and dinner time was always a sit down at the table family affair. We’d always much rather come home to eat than eat out. In contrast, my cousin’s (phupoos) kids hate their mum’s cooking. They did anything to avoid being home at meal times. There is no closeness in that family between parents and children and between siblings. Ok, it’s down to much more than that but meal times were and are definitely a bonding time in our family.
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I will still be doing my PhD (normal work hours in the lab) and coming home to make dinner for me and hubby (commencing in about a month), while he’s more or less going to be at home all day studying for plab exams. I don’t give a crap if he helps our or not, just as long as he doesn’t complain if we’re eating stuff I prepared on the weekend or if dinner is late (or making my life more difficult by being inconsiderate).
At the end of the day, when he starts working it’s gonna be crazy for him and further in the future when we decide to have a family, I’m going to do that full time. It’s all about the bigger picture. What’s the point of me going psycho and telling him he should learn how to cook and cook for us now, since I’m the one out all day and bringing in the money? It’s only going to be for about a year that he would be able to do that anyway. And given how hard he’s studied the past few years and how hard he will have to work once he gets a job, I can give him that.