RV i don't think saying"no not today i'm exhausted" will motivate him to get a maid. it will only drift them apart. My mom used to say a husband no matter how good can't take a tired wife for long. So a husband should be satisfied at all costs.
He might not help around the house coz Mil won't like it but he can def b convinced to take care of the baby or even massage her when she's tired. i got a strain neck after my recent delivery n my hubby without realizing massaged my neck n shoulders infront of my mil. oh the look she had. unforgettable lol. make it a fun massage where u massage him, he massages u then he gets his reward.
Sorry to Iggle. No offense but Gullible never make the mistake of saying anything to FIL. they r one joint n u cannot fight an army alone esp when ur own hubby is leaning towards them. Fil will never b loyal or symphatetic to u but his wife n even if he does take ur side mil will eventually take revenge.
Gullible u need to take care of health first. take multi-vitamins regularly. don't ignore urself at all. do watever it takes but keep looking after ur health seriously.
Aww, your Husband sounds so sweet Mashallah! Wow, he did that infront of his Mum? Lol! But then Husband's are meant to relieve us of stress and do these things and we vise-versa.
I was just suggesting that she could take her FIL aside and talk to him tenderly. Perhaps she could use some charm and get her FIL to think from her point of view and then her FIL could encourage his wife to get her a Maid. Or if not a maid, he could ask his six daughters to contribute around the home! I love going to my FIL for guidance and help, so that's why I suggested it. Of course every DIL has a different relationship with her FIL.
I was just trying to create new options for her. :)