macho man

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K girls and guys,

i need some advise. so no makin fun of me :hoonh:

k i need to learn or want to know how to share things (emotionally). sometimes i need to talk or to seek advise but i’m too chicken to get out of my macho ideology. is there an easy way of doing this

PS: it was very hard for me to open this thread so if you don’t understand my question tis OK, neither do I. but lets be nice.

(sp) <---- automatic spell checker. :snooty:

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It seems as though you’re stuck in an emotional deep freeze… first of all you need to identify whyy you cant open up. Is it a fear of being mocked or laughed at? Well then, you need to understand no one’s perfect. We all are humans and we all feel things.

Emotions are a tricky thing for men. Some guys are so out of touch with their emotions they dont even realize that they’re there! So you need to take a breather, sit alone in a dark room by yourself, and think things over. When you know what it is youre feeling, or whats bothering you… go confide in someone you can trust… a sibling, parent, friend… or even a phone counselor if thats better for you.

Bottling up everything inside of you is just going to add to your problems. Then you’re really screwed..Its normal to have feelings and to seek help… its abnormal not to.

I hope this made some sense. :hugz:

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^ :hayaa:

now i have to make a joke, its my blanket.

want me to sit alone in a dark room? you know what thoughts go through a guys head when they are alone in a dark room :hoonh:

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:smack: well its supposed to make you calm! So go sit alone in a corner in the daytime, better?

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I am so emotional sometimes that it’s not even kool or funny:bummer:…It really sucks:(:naraz:

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Aww you’re getting all emotional just replying :hugz:

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Wear a dress.

I promise you won't feel too macho after that : )

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been there done it, have pic's.

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i feel ur pain mr macho :(

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ughh yeah ur right:bummer:

but dani unkal listen- When you TALK to someone about it…you will feel a looooooooooot better:hugz:

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start small, share a little, ask for help or perspective when you need it.
I dunno what else, I have recently embraced that, otherwise I never opened up about stuff

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poof

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danny :hugz: find some one (preferbly a girl…i’m not being biased…i’ve just noticed that guys share their emotional problems with girls…i dunno why. another day, another thread) who you trust. and just start with something tiny. do a segway into the main thing that’s bugging you. and then when you’re done talking…make a joke. it’s alright. until the girl goes :smilestar: stop making jokes…this isn’t any time :emmy:

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Danial, real men don't share things emotionally, they bottle things up, so be a man.

:)

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:biggthumb

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fuk you danny! grow some hair. dont ruin it for all of us here, now all these mama type arm chair psychologists are gonna come in here and analyze the $hit out of us guys.

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:dixsi:

:rotfl:

Danny: be a man :smilestar:

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ur askin for advice on how to ask for advice eh?

yes yes that does make sense somewhat. well someone here i think sort of implied that this kind of thing only happens with men, butno it happens with girls as well not cos they're trying to be macho, but well cos it just happens with anyone i guess at some point or another. i think at times its more to do with not wanting to let out any insecurities however tiny that may be playing in your head, or just wanting to keep back something that u may feel will make u sound like something u wouldn't like to be thought of as, rather than sharing or confiding or asking for advice not being macho.

so why not just talk to someone with whom ur most yourself anyway? good luck.

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ok here's my theory ........... it's always good to have atleast one close sibling and one close friend ( M or F yr preferance) they comes in handy in situations like the one u're stucked in , and if one's married than ofcoarse spouse should be considered ...................i know it's not easy to share everything with someone but it helps a hell out of u especially if that someone is trustworthy.

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I guess it also is a cultural phenomenon…even in the American society..if u see the commercials that r impounded on kids…the girls have shown playing with dolls/kitchen stuff…while the guys shown playing rough with “he dolls”:cb:..and playing with cars and stuff…It is always around us…enveloping all the cultures alike…Men dont cry…how many times this is just heard in a mere lifetime..And for men who do r labeled sissy..or gays. from early on till they usually bottle up or use other forms of activities to BURN there emotional energy
…Anyway..I am going off the topic here… I would say it is really up toyou..U need to put your trust to someone who u have tried and tested …U have to decide that who it would be.If they turn it around ..I know it really feels like a slap on the face.And again take baby steps…learn about your emotions…do some research..We humans are emotional creatures…this is wat drives us/motivates us/saddens us…do not become an insensitive creature who deprives not only himself but also those people that he touches…:slight_smile: Share that inner you who is worthy…and that only u can find out, and it takes time
…just my two cents…