m I reading too much into it (MIL)

[bella88]

Re: m I reading too much into it (MIL)

@mashaal_jawad

Hey guys
I want unbiased suggestion so here I am posting it here.
My mother in law is also my dads sister, so I got engaged to my cousin last year they live abroad its arranged thingy and v r also happy with it. marriage is in this winter.
This summer she came to pak for my cousin wedding

1. so she told my mom on phone the girl side make such beautiful curtains and bedsets u should come see them.
2. She keep on mentioning they like carving furniture and they want to set their home in islamabad. Etc etc like Dinning, drawing etc
3. She is mentioning car a lot these days.
4. she keeps on pointing out every ad on tv or poster on billboard see how beautiful this model is how skinny that model is in functions pointing on random girls n compliment their beauty n clothes etc buy never give any compliment to me btw I’m above average girl n other people do like me
5. I was wearing wide leg jumpsuit, she said don’t wear it in family gatherings its for going out on movies or appropriate for uni gatherings but this other day v were in beach tree shop n she picked one jumpsuit that I like it for my daughter my.mom said oh this is the one mashaal was wearing in other design she said oh no my daughter actually don’t like wide leg jumpsuit n than she said to me my elder bahu daughter in law who is also my cousin bought jumpsuit with her from pak her was better y yrs had silk jacket like something with it I said hmm its in fashion these days than she said I don’t like wide leg my daughter like it in fitting.
6. The other day she was mentioning to my mom girls should be Islamic, respectful towards elders, could Händel house chores, could pamper husbands n take care of every need , respect them , social n fun loving , could let go husbands mistakes, smart n beautiful, could manage work n home life , should take permission from elders before doing anything etc my mom said so girls r suppose to do everything she said yes shadi is not suppose to b bed of roses etc etc
7. I took her for shopping as she wanted to buy some summer lawn suits n tailor work, she constantly was sayin make list n shop accordingly for shadi from my mom side so she mentioned bed sets, buy towel set for urself n hubby, shawls fr me 3 to 4 , suits n their types oh n she insists on giving suits to every single relative in family in shadi rasam

So I’m irriate now I mean my mom dad r doing all this not because she wants it but because they want to n I m tryin so hard to but she is losing respect in my eyes she is blessed Allhumdulilah they r financially v stable. And why she keep mentioning other girls n models beauty n dressing sense everyone likes me n my dresses I know it may sound stupid y I care but again n again its getting a lil irritating, basically I don’t know what she is upto I m clam person so i don answer her back ever
But now i want to

so your MIL wants you to be islamic when it comes to being respectful towards elders, but she’ readily following non-muslim tradition when it comes to demanding/expecting jahez?
hopefully your fiancee will be on your side. if you want to bring clothes or whatever personal need items you want to, thats different. but she shouldn’t have a say in what you should or shouldn’t be bringing.