Re: M i being paranoid?
Musicmaniac, how can you even assume that you can tell someone else... never mind if it is a friend ... how to raise thier child/brother. Personally, I would have been offended if a friend decided that her friendship with me would depend on whether my young brother farted or not. Seriously, get a life and get some perspective. How old are you anyway? Do you have any idea what pitfalls and serious stuff you are going to encounter in REAL LIFE? If you get your knickers in a twist about this, I have no idea how you are going to get out of your cocoon when you go out into the wide world.
For everyone talking about tameez and how they teach thier kids manners when they are infants... sheeesh... I commend you for trying with your own kids, but never assume everyone else views things the same way. I would rather raise a child who is a good, honest person with a ready smile but with a few cosmetic flaws than an anal retentive (quite literally!) child whose very existance is just all about tameez.