Re: luv after shadi.....
Janu Jia, that is great that you are trying to help a friend. You so correctly pointed out that you are in the "boring" situation that many of us housewives are...where most of our day goes by fulfilling mundane responsibilities.
However, it is the perspective we choose to look at things.
Just as my husband hates to get up early in the morning and drive through killing traffic to get to a job day after day so we can all live comfortably, I too can carry out my responsiblity in the comforts I have. Many people get frustrated by the rut in their lives and get involved with other people because it is an added drama and thrill in their lives.
I don't believe that love just happens if you are married woman with kids and there is no underlying or hidden issues in the marriage. I cannot even begin to imagine how that can happen unless the marriage is in trouble.
Finally, if she is "over" this, then she should never feel she sacrificed her "love" but probably came into her senses finally. I hope she doesn't choose to live with this person and leave her kids for another man when she already has such a caring husband.
I wish you could gather the courage to tell her to stop all communication with this person be it online/telephonic whatever. How would she feel if her husband would be doing the same thing?