luv after shadi.....

Lifestyle Relationships
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believe me she is serious…I checked her already :chai:

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ok so lets put right or wrong aside for a second

i think it can happen

not necessarily in movies or ur imaginations

but i think it can happen when u get married at young or any age without knowing th person and then u realise that the person u have married is not the one u wanted or is a total jerk

and u find sum1 better or sum1 who is like the person u wanted so yeah it can happen

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thats human mentality
iss new lover k badd ik or mill jaye ga
phir ik orr

same as
when i bought my 1st car, i loved
after a year got bored and fell in love with an other one
and bought that one as well

so i gifted my first car to a friend

now i m in love with few more cars

but

we can afford new cars but cant afford new lovers and relationships

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true :slight_smile:

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:vivo: JJ ! why you are asking that? :asa:

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If this other guy is also desi. This is what is going to happen.
Her home gets broken. She gets divorce from her hubby and asks this other desi guy to marry her and he will tell her to go to hell why ? He will say or think in his mind that if she could not be loyal to her husband how can she be loyal to me . Then he will go on his way to look for his next prey.
It happens 99.999999 percent in desi culture, that is how desi men think and behave . They just want to play with married women till it comes to marrying this poor girl they were having fun or good time with.
If this is a hypothetical question that is OK for discussions sake to assume such a situation otherwise tell her whoever she is that hosh main aa ja-o abhi bhee waqt hay.

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Re: luv after shadi.....

To answer the question....yes it is possible for a married person to look for love outside of their marriage. If the spouse is not happy in the relationship and the emotional and physical needs of the wife/husband are not being met then it is possible for them to look outside of the marriage in order to fulfill that void.

Now this doesnt justify their actions....everyone here knows that adultry is wrong no matter which way you look at it but that is not the question being asked here.

For those of you saying that one should get a divorce before cheating....life is just not that easy! We will never know exactly why a married person cheats or why they dont leave their partner instead of committing adultry until we are put into that situation ourselves.

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where is jia ?

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exactly, it can't be said in any simpler way.

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i agree.

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:khumar:

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That girl definitely needs some chitrol....kuch logon ko shaadi aur bachon kay baad bhi aqal nahi aati.

i know a girl who divorced her husband after 6 years of marriage and has a 5 years old son because of the same reason that she fell in love with a boy, she gave her son to her ex-husband for that boy......how can a mother be so selfish?

these kinda girls need proper chitrol....

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**U all are ryt ... yes love ho bih jata he or woh jo crush infatuation he woh love nahi he iska hume pata nahi chalta jab tak wakai divorce ho jae or lerki us lerke ke pas chuli jae n he says sorry i cant take u n ur kids n with me.....

haan the guy is desi girl is desi too ... n to help heri opened this thread i fwd her this link n m sure uski deemagh me ghunsega....

sorry for late replys i w8d jab tak ke atleast one pg was filled take atleast she sees 30 ppl saying same thing :) now i am replying .

some of u saying tht this girl has mental probs or she is just not a nice lady to be thinkn of her self instead of her kids..... (yes its true i may say she is being selfish.... but she says jia luv is blind u got married n ur happy with ur husband m happy foru, n i say ***** but ur happy with ur husband he keeps u happy take good care of ur children, (his)children, take very very good cars of ALL ur needs or WANTS. n husbands dun care bout WANTS they say v bring food n money n thts it u live n tht or leave.,..... )

some of u are saying tht love is love kabhi hi ho jata he bus pyar honachaye.... tu fortht i know insan pyar ka bhooka hota he ik jagah se agar pyar na mile tab kahin aur dhonde i understand but agar woh insan pyar ki ehmyat nakere aur use woh pyar na dikhe aur woh kahin aur jae tab??

u guys also said she may b not happy or just bored with her same old married lyf... i have same lyf i live same day every day wake up then b with kids n cook,clean,laundry iron is zeroory.... bus..... but i dun feel tht URGE to look some where else... to give my self a change i visit GS... n thts how i meet diff pl here take all my frustrations out relax my self a bit joke arounds flirt mostly but every body knows m married. m happy with my shadi n very satisfied with my hubby.... but if i try to thiunk once ke AGARR me koi affair chulaon tu woh kesa hoga i just cant think of nething.... Y or WHT to look n tht guy...

TLK i asked this q bcuz this is wht ive been hearing alot this yr specially n ppl dun like totalk bout it......
*i know a family usme aik lerka he was 19 n he had an affair with his CHACHI while his chacha was out of pakistan...... tht byatch ruined his lyf some ay it was both fault some say us aurat ki n sum say no guy was 19 old nuff to make his own decisions n he did it he is responsible but u know how immidiate family is n aistan they r syaing nahi humara bucha tu bucha he abhi use kuch nahi pata but kisi ne or kisi ne kia ALLAH he 18 saal ke baad insan ko BALIQ qarar dia he etc etc... neways .... this is off topic....

all i want to say ithink this is not love just a tym period crush which happend n the absence of her husband n while tht happend they both were not in touch with each other like not living togetehr for a tym period due to fyts n misunderstandns n she aid i need to go some where away from u with my kids so i can decide whether i wanna live with u or not.. n the mean tym this guy pop ups tces good care of her n they started of talkn bout her relationship with herhubby he always said ***** ur mostly wrong *****(hubby) is ryt n then even he was telling her n changn her mind of leavn her huby n go back to him she got attracted to him knows ing n her heart tht hes saying go bck to ur hubby but still he was soo thoughtfull for her always called her apne khana khaya.... sir me derd he dawai le lo he loved her kids just liek a father does unhe apne monh se khana nikal de deta tha or unke monh se apne monh me khana dal deta tha... when they used to go out for dinner he always took tc of kids saying tum khalo me bad me bhalonga...... things like tht ...

so again maybe at tht tym she was not happy with her hubyb n they were n a big fyt.....

I USE TERM THA, N DID ,ED cuz they both r not in the same country ne more he left for dubai n she caame bck to her husband now happy with her husband as always sari larayan bhi khatam but she n tht guy r still n contact onine n he says ***** i love u i will except u agar tum abhi ajao mere pas but i cant afford ur kids...

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Re: luv after shadi.....

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simple eng :confused:

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Re: luv after shadi.....

Janu Jia, that is great that you are trying to help a friend. You so correctly pointed out that you are in the "boring" situation that many of us housewives are...where most of our day goes by fulfilling mundane responsibilities.

However, it is the perspective we choose to look at things.

Just as my husband hates to get up early in the morning and drive through killing traffic to get to a job day after day so we can all live comfortably, I too can carry out my responsiblity in the comforts I have. Many people get frustrated by the rut in their lives and get involved with other people because it is an added drama and thrill in their lives.

I don't believe that love just happens if you are married woman with kids and there is no underlying or hidden issues in the marriage. I cannot even begin to imagine how that can happen unless the marriage is in trouble.

Finally, if she is "over" this, then she should never feel she sacrificed her "love" but probably came into her senses finally. I hope she doesn't choose to live with this person and leave her kids for another man when she already has such a caring husband.

I wish you could gather the courage to tell her to stop all communication with this person be it online/telephonic whatever. How would she feel if her husband would be doing the same thing?

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ur absolutely ryt niksik g.. n i tried to tell hertht but u know dil tu pagal he... deemagh says**** tum pagal ho gai ho dik se pyar me sab pagal hote he .... u now me kia keh rahi hon... :)

but m sure shegot her ans now n shes gunna make all her mistakes be ryt their n the past n start a new fresh lyf understandn tht this is her lyf not tht lerki bachelor lyf

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Interesting. But don't don't get involved too much Jia. Sometimes too much negative can weigh you down and you may end up being used for selfish causes. Take care.

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:) thnx ill keep tht n mind

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its wrong by all means

people who do this, its not love its just flirting