In a situation where the person who you were interested, seeing, dating, married too etc was horrible to you, unfair, unjust..and i dont mean a petty argument i mean something serious…or split from you, would expect your friends to completely cut off relationships with them or be loyal to you and fiercely gurard you or defend you?
I know im the kind of person where i become firecely defensive of my friends in these situations and i dont really make and effort with the other person and if i have to stick up for them.
Ive also got friends who for example will not change their behaviour in anyway towards the other person…a personal situation i was in a few months ago was where something went wrong with a guy i was interested…he reallllly wasnt very nice to me at all. Some of my friends totally cut off ties with him and stuck up for me where needed, my ‘best friend’ continued to treat him as before and their friendship continues to grow…which i personally find ‘disloyal’ or disrespectful
why have you been “disloyal” and “disrespectful” to your “best friend” when your “best friend” wanted to keep the friendship with him. You should not have cut off…
we don’t have friends we have interests
Henry Kissinger said this 35 years ago about relationship of countries but it still holds true even for friends
It is we don't have permanent friends we have permanent interests, but the wanker is right. Each relationship should be seen in its individual sphere without others being involved.
I right now am good friends with a couple that broke up. Both expected me to side with each of them. I told them to **** off and am friends with both.
Nope I was better friends with the Guy. He is has been my best friend for the past 10 years. We started the same classes together in College. The girl expected me to side with him esp after his ex came on to me and I blew her off and sided with my friend.
@Decent but everyone is Not inspiron.
I do NOT expect my friends to cut ties with others just because I want them to.
I do NOT expect them to side me all the time.If I am wrong I do not expect them to tell me the oppossite.
I expect my friends to be themselves and not a puppet where I can pull the strings and make them do what I want.I do NOT take advantage of my friends.
I value my friends for who they are.
Us back home were more like mafia :D
We guys who went to this same school always stick together, Then in closer circle it was a given, I mean we would protect each other interest even other person not being there. Or even without knowing him.
One true brother hood :D
BUT
BUT
there could be situations where if some one and I don't talk , and I could still respect that person.
In that case I wont have no problem my friends being friend with that person.
@Decent but everyone is Not inspiron.
I do NOT expect my friends to cut ties with others just because I want them to.
I do NOT expect them to side me all the time.If I am wrong I do not expect them to tell me the oppossite.
I expect my friends to be themselves and not a puppet where I can pull the strings and make them do what I want.I do NOT take advantage of my friends.
I value my friends for who they are.
and I totally respect this. I also share your views but majority does not.
here is a test. Keep going to your friend's place on dinner without inviting them for months and you will hear good from them...try it!
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Keep going to your friend's place on dinner without inviting them for months and you will hear good from them...try it!
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Been there....I had some issues at home..didnt invite frnds for more than a year..but they never had issues with tht.
There were times when I didnt call them for long periods of time (calling and talking to each other means a lot to us frnds) but still they kept calling and kept in touch...
little princess i think you have got me wrong...im not some control freak who wants a bunch of puppets as friends.
i guess in my case i was upset because the guy treated me very badly he did something horrible to me and this friend of mine used to agree that he wasnt very nice but then continued to increase her friendship alot with him and spent alot of alone time with him.
I know when she has been in a situation like this, i have stuck by her side making sure she got through any tough time and been polite but not really cared about the other person involved.
Been there....I had some issues at home..didnt invite frnds for more than a year..but they never had issues with tht.
There were times when I didnt call them for long periods of time (calling and talking to each other means a lot to us frnds) but still they kept calling and kept in touch...
I also have friends who are like the ones you have mentioned above...and coincidentally they are the friends who stuck by my side in this situation and defended me where they needed to.
