Re: 'loyalty'amongst friends.
Yeah, your friend is definitely not a friend. I feel like your situation is perfectly rational and I feel the same way about this. I've had friends that did what your friend did to you. I learned that yes, she looking out for her own interests. The best thing you can do is cut her off. Don't tell her. Just stop hanging out with her, talking to her, or being around when she is with mutual friends. If she truly is a good friend she'll start to wonder why you're not hanging out with her anymore and it will affect her. If she's a *****, she won't care and probably be with this guy in sometime from now. Either way this is the best option, because it will relieve you of your situation and make things more clear.
Who needs enemies when you have friends like this?
Re: 'loyalty'amongst friends.
sara..no we were never in a relationship....but it was something morally bad. This friend of mine has always been socially competitive with me...so maybe its her being her but i still didnt really appreciate it.
PakBacha thanks for your post....i think i will just stop telling her things or introducing her to all my mutual friends, i guess its obvious she isnt really a true friend...thinking about it she always does enough to keep me sweet but is never really there for me like some of my other friends are.
she would never get with this guy, but i think she would get satisfaction from being his 'special' friend or something
Re: 'loyalty'amongst friends.
I try to never keep expectations from my friends for 'siding' with me. You know the older you get, the more different types of situations etc. you are put into and your friends will not always agree with you. Infact, they might even tell you how wrong you are. You will have to try to overlook that.
I am not talking out of thin air. I can totally relate to your situation - it has happened to me. I was young at the time so got really reactive and pretty much could never trust my friend again. But I am proud of myself that after years and years of effort, I was able to completely forgive and forget what had happened. I still keep in touch but maintain my distance.
I would suggest talk to her one time about it and if she doesnt listen then distance urself a bit from her. You wouldnt wana torture yourself over this nor should you become the one who speaks your heart and then end up becoming the bad guy.
Re: 'loyalty'amongst friends.
Intna kora bi ney hona chaya, ki lokh tinu bar tookhan, bur itna miita bi ney hona chaya ki dunya tumay kaajai.
English:
Don't be so bitter that people spit you out, but don't be so sweet that the world eats you up.
i guess in my case i was upset because the guy treated me very badly he did something horrible to me and this friend of mine used to agree that he wasnt very nice but then continued to increase her friendship alot with him and spent alot of alone time with him.
if it was a mutual friend who we all knew from the start, i wouldn't expect anyone to cut off ties with them. but if it was someone who was my friend and who i introduced to a close friend of mine i would expect my friend to be loyal to me and cut off ties with that person as i know i would probably do the same. anyways, no offence but ur "friend" sounds so two-faced, saying one thing to u and another to him!