Loving your spouse in an arranged marriage...(Brick Lane)

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Re: Loving your spouse in an arranged marriage…(Brick Lane)

@Sehrysh

I never read the book - the movie was a “girls’ night in” watch. What surprised me about the story was despite how off-putting the husband was and the fact that horrible as it seems, her having an affair made sense (not that it was justified), at the end she decided that she did love her husband. There was no physical attraction on her part, but it seems the essential goodness of the man he was made her realize she cared for and loved him.

To your question about the younger generation remaining in a passionless but companionable relationship - I think the smart ones would stay in such a relationship since there’s no certainty that the next time out in a relationship that they would find both passion and respect - so it’s a one in the hand and two in the bush scenario - better with what is certain, than what is uncertain.

Sehrysh, why arent you able to ask yourself the fundamental question that why is all this necessary in the first place? why are you sounding apologetic of and glorifying such relationships? I cannot say if the love that one develops gradually for a person they have no attraction towards is ‘less’ in any way, but why would one be in such a position in the first place ? do you get the drift ? I hope i dont have to state the obvious.