Loving your spouse in an arranged marriage...(Brick Lane)

[uzair1]

Re: Loving your spouse in an arranged marriage…(Brick Lane)

@Enigmatic

I have never understood the difference b/w

1. being in love with someone

2. or having feelings of love for someone over a gradual time

how can we not say that a person is not likely to fall for their spouse gradually once they spend a long time with each other and also get to know each other better!

I dont know if there is a way to distinguish the two types of love, but the latter is circumstantial..it wouldnt have happened in a natural environment or in a ‘fair marketplace’. it is not based on natural and effortless attraction. it only happened because of circumstances. In the latter case you need to grow into someone. its more conditional type of love where there is co-dependency and give and take. you love the other person bcos he/she has been so good to you, respects you etc.