Loving Someone

[diwana]

Re: Loving Someone

@psyah

We do not fall in love, we climb to it. To gain love we must give it. We must … not seek love where we place it. We are in love when we are out of it.

The first stage of love is selfish, the second stage of love is mutual favour, the third stage of love is self-sacrifice and the final stage of love is unconditional benevolence (i.e. always thinking that what you do is nothing but mere gesture; that the recipient of your love is far beyond anything you do, every action is for the other but always falls short of what the other deserves.)

On this merit it is easy to love someone, because it may be selfish, but it is progressively harder to reach higher levels of love for the same someone.

@psyah

The selfish lover will return less than they receive or will be deceptive with what they give out.
He will give praise in return for favour and enjoin arrogance upon praise.
The lover by mutual favour will return equal to what they receive and behave like a mirror to the other.
They begin to see that there is fulfilment in self-gratification and in the gratification of others. However this
is a hopeless state as it means people will try to make others happy and rely on others to keep them happy.
The self-sacrifciing lover will not expect return but feel gain in their sacrifice. This state is tainted and diminishes
when no sense of gain is felt when sacrifice is made.
The unconditionally benevolent will resign any need for fulfilment and continue to show love to the other even if
beaten and humiliated. This state has no weakness to the initiated, but most fear entering the door to this state
or are unable to enter this state as a result of it betraying their sense of dignity.

Very thoughtful indeed. A good perspective.

@Man_with_a_Plan

Loving someone is co$tly

Especially if it ends up in a marriage?

@zobia

r u doing some kinda PhD in love that you ask similar question almost in every single thread.

Just trying to grow a romantic bone in me, that’s all. Wasn’t born with one.

This give another good idea of thread!