Re: Love vs. Parents marzi
I forgot to add my two cents about what I think your friend should do.... dump the 20 year old dud, and consider the good rishta she's got.
I know I know, The pujabi guy lef this smoking, clubbing etc, but it appears he only left this trashy lifestyle to impress the girl, and not bcoz it was the right thing to do! she there is chance he'll relapse and go back to these things when his hormones are more under control.
Her parents are right, good rishta dont come every day! especially from a good family! Your friend doesn't understand how valuable these things are bcoz she is only 20 and hasn't seen how a good brining up can sustain a health married life inshallah.
In short: dump the 20 year old and consider the new guy! If he truly is from a good family then inshallah he will be able to provide her with the security and trust she is so in need of!
I completely disagree with this poster. Perhaps the Punjabi guy isn't the right one for her, but she shouldn't be pressured into accepting someone else just because he's from a "good family". I have met plenty of jokers from "good" families, and plenty of decent people from "bad" families. Plenty of people repent their sins and change for any number of reasons and never return to them. That said, this girl clearly isn't prepared to stand up to her parents and fight for this particular guy.
I am more concerned about the maturity level of the girl. At twenty, having been madly in love twice, she just doesn't seem ready to be married. She needs to focus either on her education, her job, or in trying to create a sense of independence where she can function and support herself outside of her family home, if necessary. Rishtas will come and go, and her parents are wrong to try to pressure her into this. The Prophet (saw) said cleary that a marriage without the consent of the girl is invalid. There are certainly no blessings in such a marriage.