I think we discussed this topic earlier. But lets get a fresh perspective.
For all the newly married/engaged to be married people. If you can only pick one of the emotion as a starting point, what do you want coming from your better half, love or respect?
Please dont argue that you cannot love someone without respect. I can give examples where people love but dont respect each other (and this is not limited to boy/girl relationship. Amongst family member, its more common ‘oh i love my younger sibling to death but he/she is a jerk’).
respect...
loving someone without respect is possible in blood relations...
but its difficult in case of a boy/girl relationship...love doessnt last longer when there is no respect...n without respect its just lust
I was about to write that but then decided not to.
But that brings me to another point. You know that nobody deserves respect, we all need to earn it. Does that mean that in a newly married situation, person should not demand respect, but try to earn it through his/her own behavior?
wasiey respect ka kia achaar dalna hai? insan tu peyaar k bhoka hota hai (right out of bollywood) ... jahaan ziada peyaar milta hai waahaan (read: girl next door) chala jata hai
well instinctively wen we meet new people we know if we like them and how much respectable do we find them in first meeting...and usually when people get married they have some common grounds,values and that naturally brings to respect eachother...
but yes when u are married or watever relationship it is u either loose that respect or earn some higher points on that...
I was about to write that but then decided not to.
But that brings me to another point. You know that nobody deserves respect, we all need to earn it. Does that mean that in a newly married situation, person should not demand respect, but try to earn it through his/her own behavior?
I think that theres a certain level of trust that everyone should have...that if it were not there, then the person is considered abusive or psychotic even. Respect for a stranger is on a different level than respect for a spouse, but there should still be respect.
Trust should be given to begin a good marriage, and yes I agree .. that there should be some respect to start with but the respect that is required to keep the marriage going needs to be earned.
I agree with you. Both the husband and wife should earn each other's respect. If you know that you earned it, with hard work you are going to value it more.
