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Love 
But of course it was with parents’ consent. Both families knew since the beginning so it was an approved one even though they were slightly doubtful whether a high school romance would last or not.. 7 years later, here we are, blissfully married and cannot thank Allah swt enough for making it all happen for us.
Which kind of marriage was yours ? If Love was it love at first sight or is there is a story behind it. What is your story ? If you are still not married why not ?
I had a beautiful love marriage. Always makes me smile whenever I remember how my Husband and I met. Makes others laugh.
I was in west end, London, out shopping with my friends. I said goodbye to them, put on my head phones as a carefree teenager...and headed towards the bus stop. I walked across the road without looking and a black car hit me. It was my fault for being such a goof as the driver couldn't have stopped in time. The driver happened to be a med student so he was confident and calm and checked my leg (...which hadn't been waxed! Why fate doesn't prepare us for these things?!) and he and his friends drove me to A&E. He never left my side, and watched again how my hairy leg was being handled by the other Docs. (It wasn't too hairy btw - nothing to scare anyone away!) and he waited until my parents came. My parents were so cool and friendly with him b/c of his enderaing, graceful manner. His parents came to our home with flowers later apologizing - even though it wasn't his fault! But they never knew we fell for each other in the hospital! I just thought he was the most handsome, sweetest guy I ever saw.
It took us four years to convince my inlaws as they only married 'inside' their clan. In time we won and got married. Our marriage was so beautiful marshallah and my Husband was the most ideal with the coolest and calmest personality.
I was widowed 11 months after marriage when we were both involved in a car accident. I was 7 months pregnant at that time and went into a coma for a few months. When I woke up a few months later I knew he was gone. I knew it before my parents broke the news. Its been four years since I last saw his beautiful smile but in my heart I still feel married to him.
So there is my 'love' story. :)
i just got engaged to my sister's devar... it was arranged at first but i'd say by the time we get married it'll be a bit of both :)
Wow. That's so sweet. :)
Oh iggle! That is the most beautiful and tragic love story. It brought tears to my eyes. I had to read it aloud to my fiance as well. We are both so touched.
Your love for him is apparent, and while I am sure your faced much grief you seem to be able to appreciate and value the love that you two shared. Oh honey, we could all learn a lesson from you 
I had a beautiful love marriage. Always makes me smile whenever I remember how my Husband and I met. Makes others laugh.
I was in west end, London, out shopping with my friends. I said goodbye to them, put on my head phones as a carefree teenager...and headed towards the bus stop. I walked across the road without looking and a black car hit me. It was my fault for being such a goof as the driver couldn't have stopped in time. The driver happened to be a med student so he was confident and calm and checked my leg (...which hadn't been waxed! Why fate doesn't prepare us for these things?!) and he and his friends drove me to A&E. He never left my side, and watched again how my hairy leg was being handled by the other Docs. (It wasn't too hairy btw - nothing to scare anyone away!) and he waited until my parents came. My parents were so cool and friendly with him b/c of his enderaing, graceful manner. His parents came to our home with flowers later apologizing - even though it wasn't his fault! But they never knew we fell for each other in the hospital! I just thought he was the most handsome, sweetest guy I ever saw.
It took us four years to convince my inlaws as they only married 'inside' their clan. In time we won and got married. Our marriage was so beautiful marshallah and my Husband was the most ideal with the coolest and calmest personality.
I was widowed 11 months after marriage when we were both involved in a car accident. I was 7 months pregnant at that time and went into a coma for a few months. When I woke up a few months later I knew he was gone. I knew it before my parents broke the news. Its been four years since I last saw his beautiful smile but in my heart I still feel married to him.
So there is my 'love' story. :)
Dear Iggle,
Many thanks for sharing your story with us.
I had a beautiful love marriage. Always makes me smile whenever I remember how my Husband and I met. Makes others laugh.
I was in west end, London, out shopping with my friends. I said goodbye to them, put on my head phones as a carefree teenager...and headed towards the bus stop. I walked across the road without looking and a black car hit me. It was my fault for being such a goof as the driver couldn't have stopped in time. The driver happened to be a med student so he was confident and calm and checked my leg (...which hadn't been waxed! Why fate doesn't prepare us for these things?!) and he and his friends drove me to A&E. He never left my side, and watched again how my hairy leg was being handled by the other Docs. (It wasn't too hairy btw - nothing to scare anyone away!) and he waited until my parents came. My parents were so cool and friendly with him b/c of his enderaing, graceful manner. His parents came to our home with flowers later apologizing - even though it wasn't his fault! But they never knew we fell for each other in the hospital! I just thought he was the most handsome, sweetest guy I ever saw.
It took us four years to convince my inlaws as they only married 'inside' their clan. In time we won and got married. Our marriage was so beautiful marshallah and my Husband was the most ideal with the coolest and calmest personality.
I was widowed 11 months after marriage when we were both involved in a car accident. I was 7 months pregnant at that time and went into a coma for a few months. When I woke up a few months later I knew he was gone. I knew it before my parents broke the news. Its been four years since I last saw his beautiful smile but in my heart I still feel married to him.
So there is my 'love' story. :)
This is the kind of story which makes me open more and more of those threads I do.
That is such a beautiful but tragic story.
May Allah grant high place in Jannat to your husband and give you patience and make rest of your life easy and full of his mercy and bounties. Ameen.
I have met just one young widow in my life. Hers was also a love marriage . They had beautiful life but fate snatched her husband within a year of her wedding. He died of heart attack at a very young age and then her life became miserable , but she was a brave girl and she was fighting with life very bravely. People used to think of her as a corrupt woman. But I knew her as a girl who would offer her salat 5 times regularly. At that time even I was not regular in my salat. I was already married , if I had met her before my marriage, I would marry her to save her from all that idiotic stereo typing and labeling.
**Love or Arranged Marriage ?
Why are you not married yet?
**Churi kharboozay pey giray... ya kharbooza churi pey... nuqsaan kharboozay ka hi hota hai :P
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somehowcollide, rupayhalwa, mirch - such sweet words. Jazak allah khair. :)
Life is full of surprises. Mum used to tell me realistically that there was nothing I could do about that awful pain of missing him...and that I just had to find a way to live with it and move on. I had a little girl to look after all too. But sometimes I miss him so much that my heart actually hurts for real. Sometimes I look at the blue sky and accept my fate!!! Lol.
Mirch - why did ppl think she was corrupt? Did they blame her for his death?!
somehowcollide, rupayhalwa, mirch - such sweet words. Jazak allah khair. :)
Life is full of surprises. Mum used to tell me realistically that there was nothing I could do about that awful pain of missing him...and that I just had to find a way to live with it and move on. I had a little girl to look after all too. But sometimes I miss him so much that my heart actually hurts for real. Sometimes I look at the blue sky and accept my fate!!! Lol.
Mirch - why did ppl think she was corrupt? Did they blame her for his death?!
She was sharing a two bedrooms apartment with a Pakistani male. She was working at a store at minimum wages and in CA so she had no choice there. It is so hard to live on your own with that kind of earnings in CA.
That is such a beautiful but tragic story. May Allah grant high place in Jannat to your husband and give you patience and make rest of your life easy and full of his mercy and bounties. Ameen.
Ameen.
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Iggle, I was reading your story with a big smile on my face, and then when I got to the accident part, I nearly jumped up and read it again to make sure I was reading the right thing.
I wish you the best in life, may Allah swt bless you with lots of happiness
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Iggle, what a love story
happy start but painful ending
i could't stop tears in my eyes
I made Dua 4 u while i was crying
All the best !!
This is the kind of story which makes me open more and more of those threads I do. That is such a beautiful but tragic story. May Allah grant high place in Jannat to your husband and give you patience and make rest of your life easy and full of his mercy and bounties. Ameen.
I have met just one young widow in my life. Hers was also a love marriage . They had beautiful life but fate snatched her husband within a year of her wedding. He died of heart attack at a very young age and then her life became miserable , but she was a brave girl and she was fighting with life very bravely. People used to think of her as a corrupt woman. But I knew her as a girl who would offer her salat 5 times regularly. At that time even I was not regular in my salat. I was already married , if I had met her before my marriage, I would marry her to save her from all that idiotic stereo typing and labeling.
Mirch uncle>>i knw one lady she lives on the same road of mine
she is suffering the same,she got 4 kids
She dress up jst cz she goes 4 wrk
ppl think exactly the same which u said above
nd i feel sorry 4 this all
^ Iggle
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^ Iggle my heart sunk when i read ur story.Wish u All the best in life Ameen.
I had a beautiful love marriage. Always makes me smile whenever I remember how my Husband and I met. Makes others laugh.
I was in west end, London, out shopping with my friends. I said goodbye to them, put on my head phones as a carefree teenager...and headed towards the bus stop. I walked across the road without looking and a black car hit me. It was my fault for being such a goof as the driver couldn't have stopped in time. The driver happened to be a med student so he was confident and calm and checked my leg (...which hadn't been waxed! Why fate doesn't prepare us for these things?!) and he and his friends drove me to A&E. He never left my side, and watched again how my hairy leg was being handled by the other Docs. (It wasn't too hairy btw - nothing to scare anyone away!) and he waited until my parents came. My parents were so cool and friendly with him b/c of his enderaing, graceful manner. His parents came to our home with flowers later apologizing - even though it wasn't his fault! But they never knew we fell for each other in the hospital! I just thought he was the most handsome, sweetest guy I ever saw.
It took us four years to convince my inlaws as they only married 'inside' their clan. In time we won and got married. Our marriage was so beautiful marshallah and my Husband was the most ideal with the coolest and calmest personality.
I was widowed 11 months after marriage when we were both involved in a car accident. I was 7 months pregnant at that time and went into a coma for a few months. When I woke up a few months later I knew he was gone. I knew it before my parents broke the news. Its been four years since I last saw his beautiful smile but in my heart I still feel married to him.
So there is my 'love' story. :)
Your story brought tears to my eyes it is so bitter sweet. Thanks for sharing. i hope everything is going on well in your life right now and gets better ad better.
Wow. That's so sweet. :)
thanks iggle :)
and wish you all the best in life.......
may Allah always keep you happy
Ameen
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sorry for your loss Iggle.
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both...
love from parents side...
arrange from our side [me and misses]
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Oh Iggle, what a bittersweet love story. 
Ive been through something similar and I can totally feel your pain… Inshallah time will heal all wounds… stay strong… you have the constant reminder of the love you shared with him in your very own home… your daughter… Im sure you’ll do a great job of raising her… all the best