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yes i know numerous people who have met via shaadi.com happily married, one couple with a one year old girl. go for it!
how long did they speak online with shaadi.com?
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mine didn't work out twice! :(
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ohoo.. so sad :(:(
Story please...
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very happy for you queen_24 but sometimes I think even with regular offline face to face love how do you know that it's really love though? Out of the online love stories i've heard the ones that ended in divorce, the behavior and especially compatibility weren't really deeply looked at during the online n phone sessions. Both just wanted to show society that it was "love" and a "you've got mail" type of a superficial hollywood love story but didn't really think about whether it would work out long term. The two online love stories ended tragically where the guys ended up being completely different from how the women thought the guys were from their online and over the phone chats.
Superficially they seemed to click and before marriage everything seemed hunky dory but after marriage the feelings of the guys were just superficial and the phone and online chats didn't really cause love n caring to happen as the women initially thought was the case.
after a few years of being married, one couple had a very volatile and painful marriage that lasted more than 10 yrs mainly because the two people slept in separate rooms and lead separate lives during most of their abusive marriage where the woman lived in fear. The way she described her love story before her marriage, I really felt like trying it too. The other couple that thought it was real love online and that they were really compatible were married for 5 yrs the last two yrs of which the two lived in separate houses.
I guess sometimes people try too hard to prove to others that they found love and their story is special instead of looking at reality and what they've gotten themselves into with this whole online love thing.
I don't think I'll try it because marriage is such a huge risk and especially after the two examples i've seen.
GG- First of all, its has not only seen in online cases but some offline/ arranged marriages/ rishta anty/ cousin marriages/ uni,college marriages.....go through the same situations, where after marriage you come to know that the person wasn't compatible for you.... the entire picture that you have sketched here doesn't necessarily belong only to the online cases.... its all about luck, there has been a famous saying....Shadi aik Juwwa hay!!
I feel sorry for both the couples you mentioned.
As far as people trying too hard to prove to others about their true love... I don't know why you even said that... I am not trying proving here anyone anything... I don't even need to...as far as I am happy with my husband I dont need to let the world know Oh ha... I am so lucky to have an online love ....
Cases you described here are giving me negative vibes as you are too much focused on how people are managing difficulties in Niji Zindagiyan and how they define it to others as if targeting me. I don't really care what people do.
Its up to you whether you try it or not because you can not be sure of having a compatible partner even if you find him personally unless you don't marry him and live with him. Do you think one would find a partner personally and he/she won't have to handle with the behaviors/attitude/compatibilities etc?? You can't be sure of spending a superficial hollywood love story if you find him personally and not online!! So setting a standard in your mind about how online rishtas turn out to be is fuzool. Because nothing can guarantee you!!
I have seen cases where couple divorced in one month of their marriage and even those who divorced after their Silver Jubilees.. so there is no guarantee how long will your marriage run unless you are not able to handle it..... AND ofcourse...in some cases, its LUCK!!
Good luck to you for your search :)
I pray whether you find someone online or personally, arranged or anywhere, it turns out to be a successful marriage and tumhe kisi bhi compatibility/behavior issues se do chaar naa hona paray :)
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^i was only referring to the one couple that met online when I said that she was trying too hard to prove that it was real true love to others. They were words that she said herself to me after her divorce. These are the very bad experiences I heard of from people I know.
I was in no way referring to you or other online love stories.
The thought of marriage in general scares me from the experienceS I've seen in front of my eyes and two of them that ended badly were online which is just as big of a gamble.
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ohoo.. so sad :(:(
Story please...
Dude..
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ohoo.. so sad :(:(
Story please...
thank you for empathizing with me! :)
in reply to your request for the story behind two failed online love-shove, i would say:
**
moHabbat jo karte haiN vo moHabbat jataate nahiiN
dhaRkaneN apne dil kii kabhii kisii ko sunaate nahiiN
mazaa kia rahaa jab k Khud kar diyaa ho
moHabbat kaa izhaar apnii zabaaN se!** :)
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^i was only referring to the one couple that met online when I said that she was trying too hard to prove that it was real true love to others. They were words that she said herself to me after her divorce. These are the very bad experiences I heard of from people I know.
I was in no way referring to you or other online love stories.
The thought of marriage in general scares me from the experienceS I've seen in front of my eyes and two of them that ended badly were online which is just as big of a gamble.
Marriage is indeed a gamble my dear. I would really suggest you to listen to them but don't let it effect you in terms of getting scared. Everyone experiences differently in their marital life... not necessarily will you face that... but because you will have to get married once... a mind set already would not be a good thing to start with.. Feel sorry for your friends around but don't be scared and stay positive, in sha Allah everything will be alright. Have istikhara for sure!!
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GlobalGal, everything you mentioned can happen in arranged and love marriages where the couples met first in 'real life' rather than online..
To get to know someone all you need is time and common-sense (and a little bit of luck :D)
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i have fallen in love with a guy from chat room we are serious and want to get married hes really nice to me InshAllah hope all goes well his mama is not happy though....
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oh oo, Sorryyy KKF bhayya.. 
trying too hard to be funny at times can make one look insensitive and stupid. That’s what exactly happened with me here 
Bar sabeel e tazkira, I know what a failure is and how it feels. 
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Please share ur stories Lilli and unknownn
Love to hear successful love stories :)
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Moi. Facebook. Married since November 2012.
share story :)
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a friend of mine made a prank call via telephone to a random dude..they got talking..got to know each other via skype..fell in love...and are now happily married mashallah:)
same story as my friend, but in her case, guy made the prank call or maybe it was just a call with wrong number
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Bhai jaan aap amazing hain. yeh kabhi mat bhooliye 
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Me. I met my husband online... sort of!
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i guess its possible but i don't know how much belief i have in it.
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queen.. lucky you!
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alhamdulillah 
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My best friend first interacted with her husband when he sent her a random friend request on facebook. She declined, but then felt bad about it so sent him a message explaining that she does not add strangers to her friends' list. He responded and then she messaged him back and before we knew it, they were a couple. :D
They hit it off so well that they told their parents in a few weeks, got engaged (that was the first they met in person!) and married within a year. They're still together and very much in love