Re: Love n life
But before you start throwing stones, let me tell you that he never was in a relationship with the lady he loves though she is aware of his feelings. The guy doesnot connect very well with the fiancee who is a nice girl(and he never tries to badmouth her or anything) but he still wants the girl he loves. What should he do, be honest and break the news to the family and his fiancee and face the wrath, or go along with their wishes and get into a marriage that might or might not work out. What would you do if you were in a similar situation.
Marriage is a long term decision, rather life-long decision. My belief is that, for such decisions (like marriage and career etc.) one should always prioritise his/her personal interest/willingness/love etc. That way, there are more chances of you enjoying your career or family life, and more chances of continuing it longer. As marriage is believed to be 'gambling', and in gambling probability has much importance; so he should take decision keeping that in mind as well. Talking specifically of marriage, the guy MUST know that after marriage there are lots of rights of other partner that he has to fulfil 24/7//. In case of forced/imposed marriages, there are more chances of you ignoring other partner and thus ignoring the rights and getting more GUNNAHs. It could turn out to be a mess or may be a success.
I personally am not in favour of imposed/forced/compromise marriages AT ALL. We have to do lots of things in our life that we don't like to do, but those are for short-term and time passes and then we are back to normal. But this would not work in life-long issues because it won't pass away, it'd be always there - and thus life-long frustration. Even if the guy would have no love with any other girl, i would not suggest him to do marriage where he is not willing to. That's why Nikah without willingness is not valid.
For the guy i would suggest to quit his engagement, it is not too late. Breaking an engagement is not that worst as having a divorce, and having divorce after kids is the superlative worst case. His fiance would definitely get hurt, but it is nothing in comparison to the frustration they would go through after marriage.
As far as parents are concerned, at first hand it is their fault that they didn't figure out that their son is NOT willing for this engagement, or forced him even knowing that. They do have rights to take decisions for their kids, but they don't have right to ruin someone's life. So if they'd get shocked, it is their mistake (partly) too.