Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?

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Re: Love match - What’s the best way of breaking it to the parents?

@farimasait

Are we still discussing Zina here?
He’s monotheist, ergo.. no Zina involved.. that’s what I think…

@blackforest_360

Sure, but only if he were the female and you the male in the relationship. Marrying a monotheist outside of islam only applies to muslim males, not females. Methinks the only way your marriage would be “valid” (from the islamic viewpoint) would be for him to convert to islam and since that will most likely not happen just accept it as invalid (from the islamic perspective). Embrace whatever ideas you upheld but don’t trick yourself into righting a wrong.

i think blacky answered your post very well

I just have a few things to say to you

1. first off even if he is monotheistic “islamically” marriage to him is forbidden to you unless both of you somehow switched genders

2. no one here is truly being judgmental, but we are trying to tell u what you may not know that the qur’an tells us:

• when ppl here are telling u ur marriage would be invalid here’s what they mean:
• you may be able to get a civil marriage license but no maulvi will perform ur nikkah ceremony as a nikkah ceremony between a muslim girl and a nonmuslim guy (even if he is from a monotheistic religion) cannot be performed and is not considered “jayaz”

3. i agree with ice soul in that just because u are directly disobeying “a particular” declaration in the qur’an doesnt mean u are denouncing ur religion, but no matter which way you spin it you are being disobedient and as such if you follow through with this and considering that islamically ur marriage will not be recognized you will essentially be committing zinna for the rest of ur life…this is not something u can really ask forgiveness for because you will continuously and knowingly be committing one of the major sins in islam…so lets say u ask for forgiveness but the next day u will be repeating the sin anyways … being that we have benevolent god he may forgive u anyways…unfortunately thats something that none of us can guarantee you

4. your parents will have a hard time accepting this…even i believe your mother

5. i dunno about you but personally even if i became selfish and decided chuck it i dont give a damn i wanna be happy during my life time and marry this guy that i love …i would be very very concerned about my children… and not because i will be teaching them both religions but because despite raising them in technically a 2-religion environment (mind you this can get confusing for a child) I would want them to marry into muslim families otherwise somewhere down the line when im dead and gone or maybe even in my lifetime one of my generations could potentially end up being far away from islam and it would be all my fault …ill be answerable to god for that

6. we are all just letting you know whats in store for you…rest it is definitely your decision and your life…you do what you see fit but please make an educated decision and not one just based on emotion…

I wish you all the good luck, but call me narrow minded but im saying this to you as if you were my daughter or sister… in good conscience i can neither advise you to go through with this nor tell you how you might proceed with this such that you dont face opposition from your parents

I will however advise you to consider everything that has been said to you in this thread, read up what the qur’an says with respect to a muslim woman marrying outside of her religion (be it a guy from a monotheistic religion or whatever) and make an educated decision based on what u learn…and then if you decide to go through with this make ur bf break it to his parents first and then tell ur parents ASAP

one again, i wish u good luck and pray u make a well informed and educated decision

cheers!