Is love marriage allowed in ISLAM ,What is the concept of love marriagein ISLAM.Is it really a sin.
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Is love marriage allowed in ISLAM ,What is the concept of love marriagein ISLAM.Is it really a sin.
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What u mean by love marriage ? In Islam marriage is acceptable if couple agrees for a contract of holy matrimony.... as they are in love they agree so Islam agrees with love marriage.. plus all marriages should begin and continue with love and care..
hmm
are love marriage successful
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are love marriage successful
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Like any kind of marriage, love, or arranged, both have their successful, and unsuccessful cases.
The Prophets(pbuh) marriage with Hazrat Khadija(ra) can be considered a love marriage.
Love marriage is perfectly ok with Islam, as long as the boy and the girl dont transgress the boundaries set by Islam when it comes to mixing and socializing with each other, e.g. not meeting all alone, no physical contact, no seducive/romantic talk etc.
Yes!
I am drunk.......
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The Prophets(pbuh) marriage with Hazrat Khadija(ra) can be considered a love marriage.
Love marriage is perfectly ok with Islam, as long as the boy and the girl dont transgress the boundaries set by Islam when it comes to mixing and socializing with each other, e.g. not meeting all alone, no physical contact, no seducive/romantic talk etc.
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i agree!
there is no marriage if love isnt involved in it.
Islam takes that into consideration to teh point that arranged marriages become unlawful if they are by any means forced upon either the girl or the guy.
Mine was a love marriage but my husband didnt see my hair until after nikah. its possible guys.
thanx
Well thanx, my concepts are clear now.I thought it was not rite according to Islam to do a Love marriage.But there is one ayat which says that "i have distributed you all in different kabeelas".Does this means that we all have to get married to the persons who r of same cast?
yari-EH! i am impressed by ur love marriage.
Salaam,
Although i posted this in another thread, i'm posting it here again for your benefit. Insha'Allaah it will prove useful and help to address some of your concerns:
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Assalama alaikum, ya shaykhuna, I have a question which is about my mother. I have a girlfried who is muslim and my mother and same of my family don't want me to get married to her because of her (tribe). They think that her tribe is no good and no one gets married to them. My girlfried and i came from the same country, culture, and relegion but different tribes. What did the quaran say about people who disrespect others for who they are. She said that if I get married to her she will disowned me and will never talk to her. I am so confused because the quran says do what your mother tells you to do. I think what my mother is doing is aneceptable in the quran which I'm not sure. I never talk back to my mother and i respect her opinions but what can i do and how can I handle situation like this what can I do please helb me.
thank you
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Praise be to Allaah.
Before we find out what the Qur’aan says about despising others because of their origins, we should know what the Qur’aan says about having girlfriends. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“… Wed them with the permission of their own folk and give them their mahr (dowry) according to what is reasonable; they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boyfriends…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:25]
In his commentary on this aayah, Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
“Muhsanaat [translated as “chaste”] means that they should be pure, not indulging in zinaa (unlawful sexual conduct), hence they are described as not being musaafihaat, which means promiscuous women who do not refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them… Ibn ‘Abbaas said: ‘muttakhidhaati akhdaan means lovers.’ … Al-Hasan al-Basri said: ‘It means a (male) friend.’ … Allaah has also forbidden this, meaning marrying her so long as she is in that situation…’”
Now that you know the Islamic ruling on this matter and are sure that what you have done is haraam and sinful, we will now move on to what Allaah says about despising others for their origins. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former…” [al-Hujuraat 49:11]
Allaah has not created mankind in nations and tribes so that they may be proud and despise one another, but so that they may be distinguished from one another and thus get to know one another. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allaah is that (believer) who has taqwa (i.e. is one of the muttaqeen – the pious). Verily Allaah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.” [al-Hujuraat 49:13]
Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, in his commentary on this aayah:
“Here Allaah is telling mankind that He created them from one soul, from which He created its mate – this refers to Aadam and Hawwa’ (Adam and Eve) – and made them into nations, which are bigger than tribes. Beyond the tribe there are other smaller units and divisions, such as families and clans. An alternative interpretation is that ‘nations’ refers to the non-Arabs and ‘tribes’ refers to the Arabs. All people are equal with regard to lineage because of their descent from Aadam and Hawwa’, upon whom be peace, but some may be better than others in religious matters, i.e., in obedience to Allaah and in following His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). For this reason, after forbidding envy and scornful attitudes towards others, Allaah pointed out their equality as human beings: O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another – i.e., that they may know one another by referring to their tribes. Mujaahid said that this meant by calling a person ‘So-and-so the son of So-and-so, from such-and-such a tribe.’ … Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked, ‘Which people are the most honourable?’ He said: ‘The most honourable in the sight of Allaah are the most pious (those who have most taqwa).’ They said, ‘That is not what we were asking about.’ He said: ‘The most honourable of people is Yoosuf the Prophet of Allaah, the son of the Prophet of Allaah, the son of the Prophet of Allaah, the son of the Friend (khaleel) of Allaah.’ They said: ‘That is not what we were asking about.’ He said, ‘Are you asking about which lineage of the Arabs is most honourable?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘The best of you at the time of Jaahiliyyah are the best of you in Islam, if they understand properly.’” Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) also reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Allaah does not look at your outward appearance or your wealth, He looks at your hearts and your deeds.’”
Further information that is relevant to your question may be found under #1805 and #1114. We ask Allaah to bless us and you with strength and goodness, and to keep us all away from that which is forbidden. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)
Islam is not against love marriages but is against adultery and fornication, and fornication is what most couples do before they are involved in their love marriage.
i did read ur post b4 as well(hasnain).To tell u honestly doing something intentially for parents is a very good deed ,if u r good with ur parents ,definitely u’ll get a way out.U’ll get gud in return!!!By this ayats it means that its haram to have a gf.Does a clean relationship is forbidden.what do u say?U just leave everything to GOD.There definitely would be way out.
MANGNAY SAY KABHI HAATH MILTA NAHI
JORIAN BUNTI HAI PEHLAY SAY SUB KI
If ALLAh has written tht gal in ur life as ur wife u’ll definitely be with her.as ur birth,death and marriage partner are fixed in ur hand.THIS IS TRUE!!!But cast is nothing in ISLAM haina
This is not true…!
Marriage partner is not fixed in Islam!
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Well thanx, my concepts are clear now.I thought it was not rite according to Islam to do a Love marriage.But there is one ayat which says that "i have distributed you all in different kabeelas".Does this means that we all have to get married to the persons who r of same cast?
yari-EH! i am impressed by ur love marriage.
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In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful.
049.013 : O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).
Kabeelah and caste are two different things...., and in the verse 49:13, Allah tells us how from a single pair he made us into tribes and why... and no, this does not at all mean that we have to get married to the person who are of the same caste...caste has nothing to do with Islam!
By marriage partnet fixed i mean that ur life partner is written in ur destiny the day u r born,a friend of mine told that death and life partner is written the day u r born ,the rest is just up to u.
U MEAN ALL THIS IS WRONG!!!
IF ITS WRONG WHAT IS THE REALL CONCEPT.
THIS I DO HAVE HEARD THAT CAST DOESNOT MATTERS,
Please ask your friend to prove his/her claims from Quran and Sahih Hadith.
You choose your life partner… it is not written in your destiny the day you are born…!
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Please ask your friend to prove his/her claims from Quran and Sahih Hadith.
You choose your life partner... it is not written in your destiny the day you are born...!
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Do you have any proof of any AYAT that proves what u r saying.What if u choose a partner but ur parents doesnt like.Then!!! and u r married to the person whom ur parents like.This is why it is said that JORIAN BUNTI HAI UPER AASMANO PE
How can your partner be written for you?? If that’s the case, how do you explain Muslims who are married to Hindu’s, Christains, Jews, or even atheists. Also, how would explain the concept of divorce and re-marriage?
i am totally confused now :S:S:S
well in tht case we r the ones to choose our life partners.
U tell me one thing what is a solution of a gal/boy who is not capable of gping against her mom who is a conservative person.and the gal alwayz obeys her mom.How will she married to the person she likes