which 1 wuld u prefer and y??
and which 1 do u think lasts longer??
General Answer ....yes
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General Answer ....yes
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:)
it was suppose 2 b a serious que...:p
Love marriage. red roses. hot and intense love;)
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Love marriage. red roses. hot and intense love;)
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And and an intense divorce just as quick. Easy up easy down. Speaking strictly statistically, ofcourse.
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And and an intense divorce just as quick. Easy up easy down. Speaking strictly statistically, ofcourse.
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I'd like to see those statistics? I know plenty of love marriages in Pakistan, still going strong. Things in the West however are completely a different issue.
I think a more ordered approach would be better. i.e. you meet the girl, find out a good deal about what she wants vs. what you want and then marry her. That's how I married my wife, both my parents are I played an active role. In Pakistan its one or the other which is stupid.
If you need your Abbaji/Ammaji’s permission to Mary someone, you will obviously need it in divorcing someone too. If your parents are forcing someone on you, you tell them to marry that person themselves (that’ll make some old Mammas very happy). She can experience the hardness again.
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Love marriage. red roses. hot and intense love;)
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AMEN!
Asalamalaikum.
Sometime, some people talk harshly about love marriage as soon as they hear the word “love marriage”, and it kinda sometime seem like “jealousy” to me that some people have towards it.. not always, just sometime…
No offense!! 
And I know bunch of friends who did arranged marriage, and in a few years, they already got divorced… It is sad, but it is true..
but whichever it is, love or arranged, it is from Allah..
as an old saying goes..."bandar kiya janey idrak ka maza"
if you have never fell in love with someone then how do you knw if it doesn't work or it does works?
i want to end up with a person that i knw loves me and its doing it coz it was her parents wish.. coz i am not living with her parents i don't want her, 5 yrs down the road, to end up thinking "What if i had..." coz that will hurt me as well as her
Its only you who can choose which way to go.....My marriage was arranged and its the best...!!!no one can tell you which one is good or bad...there are good and bad marriages everywhere!!
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And and an intense divorce just as quick. Easy up easy down. Speaking strictly statistically, ofcourse.
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satistics without evaluation dont do much
In general people who have the freedom, are independent enough, to find their own mate in their culture, will be strong enough, and independent enough to walk out of a bad relationship as well.
however, people in arranged marriages..maybe not the semi-arranged type where parents play matchmakers, but where the guy and girl have little say..do you really think that they would be able to walk away from a bad marriage, due to issues ranging from societal taboos, not being independent, etc etc etc.
In the end..is the sign of a failed marriage just the divorce? or is the sign of a failed marriage a marriage where one or both partners are miserable..use the latter definition and it may alter your view on the success rate of arranged marriages.
If there is one thing I know about marriage it is this.. There are no guarantees or right ways of doing things...
It is more important that you be flexible and willing to compromise...then to dwell on how u meet that person...
S.
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You never know how ur marriage work out, i also hear lots of pplz divorce and i mean
if they parents marry them off and after a year u hear they are divorce same thing if u
do Love marriage but also hear that Arrange /Love Marriage goes well.
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Oh thats funny I have both, arranged and love.
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This topic again
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lol…i think u r rite madhanee…but tht doesnt alwayz work…4 gurls mostly parents dont consider their sayin…
but either love or arrange…u’ll have 2 make compromises…
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verizon how many times r u married btw?:)...(i havent been through ur four wives thread yet :p )
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I have been married 4 time, twice divorced, currently I have two wives. One in PK and the other in US.