Love Marriage Ends in Divorce

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Re: Love Marriage Ends in Divorce

@Gaia

Education is a huge player in divorces within the desi culture. I think people have a hard time finding the middle between their cultural norms and what we learn about humanity in a classroom.

In a classroom we learn that we have freedom, rights, and no one should stand in our way of succeeding.
But through our families we learn that marriage works with sacrifice and patience.

So which path do you take? If you choose to take one single path, for example following culture, then your marriage will not be successful (even if it doesn’t end in divorce, but there is unhappiness, as history shows).If you choose to make your marriage work solely on what you learned with education, then you’re going to be alone.

The reason more love marriages fall for divorce is because there is too much ME and not US. Both partners become selfish when their OWN dreams are no fulfilled. Now just because less arranged marriages fall into divorce, that DOES NOT mean overall they’re more successful. It just means those who opt for arranged marriages are willing to make more sacrifices, while “losing” themselves. Is that success? I would argue no.

I think those marriages which are successful today, may it be love of arranged, have found the middle between culture and education. Islam has made it so easy by giving everyone rights and their own responsibilities, but WE make it so much harder. NO ONE should have to “lose” themselves while making a marriage work.

I agree with you