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And Madhanee, add to your detailed fkd up and honest to goodness theory, I have had decent women who ASKED for emotionless sex. The moment you try to be gentle, they label you sissy. ROugh tough baby, rough tough.
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I thought humans were animals too. I think sex is a biological need. The society makes it look like a shameful affair. I like the “quickie” methodology with no strings attached.
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Thats entirely different scenario man. Rough tough is highly desirable at times. What pisses me off is that when they ask for it, its love but when we do, its bad and animal like.
On a different note, funguy dont you think women enjoy sex more than we do?Even the roughest of it howsoever emotionless they enjoy it more.
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Warning you Verizon to behave urself. Change from quickie, else she will disappear as much quickly.
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Unfortunately - socially and biologically females HAVE to "emotionalize" sex. We need it yes, but we have a different result if we indulge from people.
Have you read some of the posts on this board about sex from all you guys. I have been called a sl*t more on this board from men (and women, which blows my mind) who know nothing about me simply because I am gora and from US than I have in my entire life. And this from people I HAVEN'T had sex with.
Socially if a woman does it, they are a lower life form, a thing to be used. We have to be careful about who we do it with because guys are cruel this way.
Biologically - women get pregnant even if taking precautions, it happens. Another reason we have to "emotionalize" things.
Men don't go through either one of these things, in fact men even praise each other for nailing someone while labeling the girl easy and a slut.
FG - stop falling for the women you pay for, it will help
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you are damned it you do it.. and damned it you don't.. its as simple as that for us guys..
no matter what you do .. yeh larkian khush nahi hosakti hain..
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So it’s OK to call me a ‘slut’?
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Excuse me!!! Quickie is not a bad word. Look right under the gup shup banner. It’s only a word. However if you object here “blast a load” Does that help?
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I thought you were a guy. Post your pic.
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That doesnt give you rights to label men to be emotionless in retaliation, does it?
Men don’t go through either one of these things, in fact men even praise each other for nailing someone while labeling the girl easy and a slut.
True men would never tell others what they did to their loved ones romantically. Next please?
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Verizon - Zalim is a morality monitor today :) but he's nice about it, unlike the Quran brigade
Zalim - I never said men are emotionless robots, quite the opposite. When a man loves you, you are set for life. They are everything you want.
It is that time before they are in love and are just out for a good time that you have to be wary and unfortunately the way they act at this time is how women must judge all men. You may not say to a woman you love her uness you meant it, but I am sure not all guys have your standard. In fact as a woman, I know they don't.
Let's just say that woman have a different view of guys because guys try this with women not other men. We have more to lose by indulging so we will be more careful and will err on the side of labeling you all pigs :D (teasing, don't jump all over me).
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Ansoon, not so. All we expect is that if we're in a relationship, then sex doesn't come up until the right time. That is, marry us first, and then talk about sex.
Something that, you have to admit, many jaahil idiots don't do. And the surprising thing is, that I've met so many guys who read namaz and walk around calling themselves muslims and yet they have no QADR for the emotional damage they can do a woman by a one-night stand, or even by having sex, and then later dumping the girl or "losing interest".
Sex is not something to be taken lightly. But guys are the ones who don't stop to think about the consequences. Minah Pa is right - guys dont need to worry about pregnancies and bad rumours. They'll just wipe their hands clean of it, and walk away. And if anyone comes to them asking about it, they'll have the nerve to say "I dont know what you're talking about".
That's what we mean by emotional sex.
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I was referring to quickie as an act. Thats going to cost you dearer, if you make it a way of your life.
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True men would never tell others what they did to their loved ones romantically. Next please?
That's what I mean. If it were your wife that you deeply loved, then you wouldn't tolerate comments like "so how many times did you bang her last night?"
But if its some aweein girl you picked up, then you would (you as in collectively). But no one ever stops to think that this girl is just as human as your "loved one".
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We have a different meaning of emotional sex then. To me ES is not about what will happen afterwards but rather really having sex with mutual consent and WANTING to do it rather just going through the motions.
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funguy, if that was the definition of emotional sex, then every girl would agree that many men do engage in emotional sex. But I can't digest the idea that if a guy enters into the sexual union without thinking of the well-being of their partner, that they were too "emotionally attached" to the female to begin with. And that would call into doubt whether the whole sexual intercourse was emotional in itself to begin with!
What I fail to understand is why guys would treat other girls like crap by engaging them in sex and then dropping them so easily, when they would be very aggravated if anyone did anything like that to their own sisters, mom, or daughters. And what I also fail to understand, as a muslim, is how muslims can go around behaving in this manner. Men must really see women as a commodity to just use if such uncaring and careless sexual acts are so rampant.
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There is a difference between emotional sex and responsible sex. I agree that men shouldn't just have sex if they are not willing to face the consequenses.
But then again, emotions can change. May be they were sincere at the time of having sex and then just couldn't put up with the nagging afterwards. Let's separate sex from nagging.
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What if women didn’t have to worry about pregnancies and bad rumours…would they be as ‘animal like’ as men?
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This thread is another proof that most of the people who hang around this "health and relationships" section are very sexually frustrated geeks/ lauday baz/ perverts. :D
the only love making they can do is by coming there and talking about their sexual.............................
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nice wording there - "face the consequences". Its not just facing the consequences. Too many men "face the consequences", and then subsequently turn their face away.
Fayz, I'm all for the controversial biological theory in which it is claimed that men biologically want to fertilize as many women as possible to maximize their biological fitness whereas women tend to want to stay monogamous so as to protect their offspring and the biological fitness and success of those offspring. So yes, I think if women didn't have the pregnancy attached to the condition, then they wouold be poly-amorous, just as men are. Then maybe Islam might even allow polyandry!