Re: Love and Hypocracy
The specific issues you are raising (back biting, gossiping, involving oneself too much into others’ affairs) is pretty much culture. We share it with Indians, Bengalis, and even a few east Asian nations and we had it before 80s. Religion only adds spice to it.
I can see similar things happening in a conservative Indian Hindu family as it happened to Aisha. You judge that as ‘jahalat’ and they judge you as ‘beghairat’ and don’t want their ‘izzat’ being married to a guy with lots of baggage.
To be honest with you, I would also have a lot of issues if a proposal like your’s came for my daughter and investigations revealed colorful past and suspicious family background. Beating her and forcing her to marry someone else is not what I would do though.