Lost

Alone00 · November 6, 2017, 9:25pm

Re: Lost

I have couple of friends who are facing similar problems in getting married due to no parents or parents being old/sick/uncooperative. As you mentioned, you also keep moving from city to city, so I’m guessing that would leave you without a permanent social circle so a girl’s family has only your word to know about you. It’s just too much risk from a girl’s family’s perspective. Have some references ready all the time just as you would during a job search.

My single friends have mostly been ostracized by their married friends. The situation gets frustrating and depressing indeed. Those guys want to see/talk to a girl before investing any more time dealing with the families but families want it backwards and especially with guys who have family issues. You are lucky that you are in medical field which predominantly has lots of women, and live in Pakistan - the land of beautiful girls. I’m sure you’ll find someone right for you iA. Just don’t be creepy.

As far as rejection is concerned, you must remind yourself that it’s their right and they don’t need an NOC about the validity of their reasoning. You should be more worried about vetting those who accept you. Like you, I also needed a companion as I was so lonely living far from my family/friends in a foreign country when I started to think about getting married. Shortly after marriage I was lonelier than ever before as I realized I married the wrong person who is just into playing mind games all the time. Be patient, improve yourself as others have suggested and guard your imaan.

Thank you this will be very helpfull !!