how to cope when u or ur loved one has lost his/her job?
i’ve no idea
I’d been stressing about it for the past 2 weeks and hence had been pressurising the hubby to send his resume to as many jobs/recuiters as possible. Shukar hai he listened..
But, having said that, you dont really know what to do until it actually happens. He was fine uptil the time he got retrenched..
Id been speaking to him all day just asking him how things were.. and then we got home and got him to talk to my dad and his parents.. and also his BIL and SIL.. even his best mate.. i thought just talk about it.. let it out..
we even had a good laugh about it… I mean, what else can you do?
we agreed that alhamdulillah, uptil now we were having a very good run… so its about time we sort of dealt with a bit of hard time.. trying to stay positive you know..
how have you been dealing with it?
Inshallah, all those who have losts jobs will get something soon.. I’m praying for all of you
yeah i know sara... Inshallah somethign works out sooner rather than later.
I'm going part-time pretty soon and our house is just on the brinks of getting started. Im hopnig he gets a job within a week or two.. i know im hoping for a bit too much.. but noone can stop you from hoping yeah?
just be there for him, i guess. it is hard, but it is not the end of the world. maybe even look at it as a time to sneak in a break, re-evaulate work priorities.. i have a couple of close friends in the same boat..
Just a word of advice - keep him motivated to explore work opportunities, but don not push too much. Most men either get massively irked by that or lose confidence, as they sense the urgency of the situation, but frustration can develop owing to their efforts not working out.
I'm currently not working, Sadzzs. I need to get back to sending out my resumes. With the terrible economy that we're in, people are being let go because of budget cuts. And this makes it harder to find a job as well. But Allah will provide for all of us.
It's like my mom always says.....when someone loses a job....another person is hired to replace that position. That "another person" could soon be your husband...for another great job out there.
Whatever the reason for losing the job....some position out there has to be filled. Even people who get fired from high executive positions in major multinational companies....find a job somewhere, right? Hang in there Saddzz, these are tough times for all of us. And when one door closes....another one opens.
^ lol... lets just hope we come out stronger rather than part our ways, Inshallah. Dont quite see that happening though..
thanks for the advice initiator and redvelet.. I will make sure i dont push him to a breaking point. We're in it together neway... so whatver he goes through, so do I.
I've been through that Sadzzz. I was pregnant at the time but I knew I had to be his biggest cheerleader. So we talked a lot, kept a spirit of hope of that it was perhaps for a better opportunity and kept my attitude right. Also, keep a distance from negative people who "sympathize" with you to the point of depression. This things are part of life and temporary phases.
InshaAllah all will be well. Have good expectations.
Sadz, I have had a few close friends suffer the blow ... One thing I would suggest is that if incase after weeks and weeks of trying , your hubby isnt able to secure a job , then dont hesitate even for a minute to go for a slightly lesser job ...
As long as some salary keeps trickling in , things will be good to get through the tough time ..
And I am more then sure inshallah its just a few more months .... when the market gets better , and it will .... inshallah ..... all these companies letting go of people will be running around to get some staff onboard ...
Some of my friends who were made redundant from senior management positions are now working as officers /consultants working on 1/4 of their previous salaries ... but they said even that quarter of a salary is making a difference in their lives ....
In this economy, losing a job means losing WHO you are. Losing your lifestyle. Losing your dignity. Possibly losing respect from your partner - if they do not understand.
If it is a guy who lost the job, it would be very difficult for him - because we usually call him the "bread winner".
Pickthall Translation of Meaning of Quran, Verse 2: 155-157
And surely We shall try you with something of fear and hunger, and **loss of wealth* and lives and crops; but give glad tidings to the steadfast, *
*Who say, when a misfortune striketh them: Lo! we are Allah's and lo! unto Him we are returning. *
*Such are they on whom are blessings from their Lord, and mercy. Such are the rightly guided. *
In my experience life does not remain wonderfully easy all the time, we have good times and difficult times, but remain conscious of the fact that we are all part of Allah's plan. Sooner or later things will get better, inshallah, but while u r in the difficult period, enjoy your struggle and remember Allah, it should make u feel better that u survived a tough time!