While I agree to a certain extent with what you’re saying, I also know that even in non-Muslims dating for ten years is unusual. A normal time is between 2 - 3 years…5 years MAX. After 5 years, even non-Muslim women begin to question where the relationship is going and give their men an ultimatum…marry me or get out of my life.
She may have had a more relaxed approach to life but most women (Muslim or not) will raise their eyebrows at 10 years of dating.
Exactly. Better for the girl in this case. She may shed a few tears now but its better than shedding tears for years fo her life. Or even having to go through a long and painful divorce.
Pak-One…
I dont think your friend was ever going to marry. To be honest with you, this sounds like a man who had a great relationship with his girlfriend but didnt really envision her as his wife. However, because of the history between them, chemistry between them, the fact that you guys loved her so much, maybe even his family had begun to care about her…he felt pressured into solidifying this relationship. Once that was done, things must have moved pretty quickly…a bit too quickly for him. He finally realized he was making a mistake and bailed out. Now, he needs time to think about his next move…towards her and the explanations he will give all of you.