Losing the Groom

[pak-one]

@redvelvet

You’re not supposed to put such ideas in the groom’s head…

At least one time or the other since his disappearance? Or at least one time or another BEFORE the disappearance? What about emails and phone conversations in previous months…maybe even way before that…some tiny details that you may have overlooked or missed? Did he mention or give the slightest hint…a brief complaint about any issues? Has any other mutual friend complained about him?

I know you said that he’s not the kind to cheat on his gf…and that he’s the type to break things off. But, it’s possible that this is an assumption…one that in actuality is easier said than done. It may be that someone else (male or female) entered his life. Perhaps he felt torn because he didn’t want to leave his GF entirely…and considering the time that went into the relationship, he didn’t have the courage or perhaps the heart to call it quits.

What if he decided upon marriage…as a relief or perhaps a diversion from a stressful situation? Maybe he thought that marriage could resolve some inner conflict of his or fix his life in some way…and then at the last minute, he realized that marriage is not the cure for whatver issue he’s facing…and left?

Is he the type who hold grudges? Could it be that he was upset about somethign his GF did but never told others about it…and decided to jilt her at her wedding as some sort of payback?

Maybe he had a change of heart at the last moment (cold feet). Maybe he wanted to do something that would make her want to get over him. And he thought jilting would be just the thing that will turn her off toward him and end a relationship that may have been emotionally difficult for him to end in other more decent ways?

I mean it’s hard to think about everything…I was messed up because this very reason, went back to the emails, thought about the text messages etc. I mean he had the flu a few weeks back, I had stopped by with some food and to check in on him, he seemed sad..but that could be because of the sickness.

He is the type who never forgets..so it’s possible that there was a grudge. I mean the possibilities are endless. Overall, he is always so even tempered, a really good friend, and pretty hard worker at the job.

I’m going to check with the police to see what else we can do. My other friends are considering going down to Fl again to be on the ground.