Re: losing my sleep over an issue
It seems like this has been brewing inside him for a while and now it has all erupted.
Sorry to say this, but he is being very immature and disrespectful to you. The money belongs to him because he let you work? Now he wants that money? It seems that he has insecurities about you working.
I can imagine that you must feel so hurt right now. In fact if that was my husband he would be cooking and cleaning for himself and sleeping on the sofa if he gave me that kind of treatment!
It is probably best to sit down and talk it out. There is no point in him being angry and you being hurt and upset. Explain to him that you have kept that money aside for a rainy day/the children’s future and that although he may feel comfortable spending most of his earnings you are not of the same thinking. It is an issue that won’t go away, so there is no point burying your head in the sand and hoping that things will calm down.
Just to add I agree with ManiaX about the whole ‘that’s yours and this is mine’ thing. Why not try clubbing your income together (for example for the next few months put your earnings in to a joint account) and taking all expenditure from that, with allowances for treats for the both of you. Whatever is left at the end of the month is taken out and goes in to a savings account. Aim for a goal - for e.g. to buy a house or a car. Once savings account reaches that goal you have both reached a new stage in your lives and you have worked hard for it together.