losing my sleep over an issue

[KKF]

@NJMasti

^He is by no means struggling. He is living and PROVIDING us a comfortable life.

However, he does not have a strategy. He does not save any. We have been together for 10 years and the amount that he shows me for in his savings is something I feel that it’s a petty change. By no means we can even feel comfortable putting a down payment on a house. Then there would be nothing at all.

I have been very clear to him, that let’s sit down and write up a small plan as to how and where the money should go. And how we can save for future. He does not comply. He says you do what you want.

So it’s become 10 YEARS now… and yes we are comfortable that we have food and shelter.. but that does not mean that we have any type of equity. That worries me.

I think it’s natural to be worried. How can I make him sit down to write up a plan? Obviously his plan is that I should give him all my savings and he will still manage the way he does.

But that does not leave me with anything. I would have nothing to my name.

So even after working my life - I would still be a helpless gal - who in case “lives” a little longer would have to be at the mercy of others. How does that make sense?

I want to be able to KEEP the security I EARNED.

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i AGREE 100% with you…as i said b4 if he is NOT struggling then u MUST be able to keep ur savings. i’m sure if, God forbid some unforseen things must happen, u’ll be the first one to take that money out and spend where its needed. i think u r right he has to smarten up and sit down with u or with u AND a financial advisor to chart up a budget that will see the money going where it should go.

on the lighter note, yes, he need tightening big time … u CAN do it! iA**