Toffeeeeee. Sister U r exactly going through the same thing my younger sister went through. Alhumdulillah she is over with it now.
U sound so much like my sister that its kinda scary.
First of all again I m gonna ask u to DO Istikhara. Its not that hard or anything any one who knows how to read namaz can do it.
And ask yrself these questions? Is it because of the fact that u have been in a long relationship that the thought of breaking it makes u sick. By that I mean sometimes we girls get under this pressure that we can't break it because its been so long my family knows his family knows. How will I be able to start over again. He was the one he should be always be the one? behan doesn't it bother u that it doesn't matter to him that much as he had suggested about the break up part?
Getting married is not a joke. Its a lifetime commitment. As someone mentioned later on u dun want him to be like "mai ne kaha, soch lo, blah blah"
Abt those little caring details. C'mon u have been with him for more than 5 yrs now.
Although I m no one to judge but this is how I see him.
A guy who is with a girl. Yeah she loves him & he knows that. He is taking everything for granted. He loves her too but is too immature to take responsibility that comes with relationships & I dun blame him. Some people take time to grow up & I mean girls too.
I m gonna ask u a third time. Talk to him straight up. Tell him we should do Istikhara & then being neutral ask Allah to guide u & make u guys closer if its good for u both or separate u guys if that's whats good in the long run. Either way Allah will make a way that things will eventually start working out.
What does yr family have to say abt this? Any sisters? siblings? that dun like him or have a different opinion about him. Sometimes we love someone so much that we end up overlooking the bad. T
ry to see the situation with someone else's eyes. Every time u read namaz ask Allah to give u the ability to judge between good & bad. InshaAllah things will be fine in no time. Best of luck.