Re: Looks versus Personality
A few years ago I was trying to write a story with a theme about love at first sight. That was bothering me a bit, because it doesn't seem a positive thing at all, love at first sight without knowing the personality even a bit means it's only for the looks and in many cases wouldn't last at all.
I was chosen in marriage by a cousin for my looks. After marriage, he tried to alter my entire character. I wasn't allowed to laugh much anymore, I wasn't allowed to make many jokes anymore, I wasn't allowed to talk to other people anymore, except just a few female family members and one or two female friends, I wasn't allowed to read much anymore, etc. So he only wanted my looks, but not my personality. He didn't really want me, just my appearance, my body, me physically, but not me as a person, as a character, as a human being. When people only want you for your looks, it destroys your self esteem and one day, everybodies looks change, by giving birth, or by old age, or by accident, etc and then the people who only like you for your looks, don't like anything anymore about you.
It's unrespectful to only go for looks. It's understandable that looks play a part in liking someone, that's normal. But it shouldn't be the only reason, more important is personality. Besides, when someone has a personality you don't like, you get bored with that person I think, because you have nothing to talk about. In my marriage, I had nothing in common at all, the conversations with my ex were always boring.
So speaking from experience (unfortunately) I advice everyone to go for personality, don't go for looks alone.
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