Some people were very surprised when i told them that i attach importance only to someone’s heart and soul qualities and don’t give a damn on how beautifull is a guy…if i were to choose a lifepartner
I’d like to have your opinions about it: do you think look is important in mating issues? more important than intelligence and education?
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You should put some importance on looks. After all, the opposing party is judging you by the way you look.
Give 'em a taste of their own medicine, I say. ;)
Anyone with hair on their back or butt, anyone with a huge nose with blackheads, anyone with a unibrow, anyone with a nasty body odor, or a bad fashion sense...is out!
And honestly, some of you men need to put on make-up. No need to wake up next to a dog face.
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In the past, I have been attracted to some of the most unattractive men out there ... shorter than me, balding, acne, you name it, they had it :D ... if you genuinely feel attracted to someone's personality, then their looks go totally out of the window. In fact, when you like someone, you start noticing the nice qualities about them and their flaws become pretty minor and irrelevant ... at least that is how it is for me. I know most people aren't like me in this regard.
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Intelligence is the most important quality, but the girl should also not be fatter than me/hairier than me.
She can be just as fat as me, perhaps even just as hairy (I don't have that much body hair for a guy), but exceeding me in either of these respects is too much for me.
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Maddy i hav the perfect girl for you 
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Looks and intelligence collectively make the personality of a person. I think it is important to look at the person as a whole not just one aspect of his personality such as "looks" "intelligence" or "physique".....
Out of all different aspects of a person's personality, I think "intelligence and wisdom" are the most precious which one may not be able to find easily.
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I think there should be a good mix. Too much emphasis on one aspect is wrong. I mean if the girl's pretty darn ugly tou personalty ka achar dalna ha. On the other hand if she's very hot but is a total bitch, then thats no good either.
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there should be a balance b/w them.
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wow…really, that’s the reason why it’s so easier to put an emphasize on look
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No, its easier to put an emphasis on looks because that's what your body tells you to do.
Its quite hard to follow the saying "mind over matter".
And men have an especially hard problem with it.
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parissenoor
Out of all the qualities of a person, I think intelligence and wisdom are not easy to find. If we talk about external beauty only, well, I think every other person has something different and we cannot find the "most" beautiful person, I think so.
External beauty DOES play a part I am not excluding it. But I think relatively less emphasis should be placed on this attribute. Thats why, I said, to me it is important to look at the person "as a whole"
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.....my signature says it all. :D
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once personality is given teh chance to shine through.. and is excellent, looks take the back seat. I've complete faith in this now :)
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parisenoor, are talking about a partner with similar interests and goals? What do you really mean by intelligence? Are you attracted to guys that have a higher IQ? Similar interests, aspirations and goals are the things that keep us together. Looks really don't matter if you have the mind connection. :D
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Personality and intelligence are definately important.....but for me, I also need to have physical attraction to that person. I've met guys whose personality was amazing but for some reason, I just wasn't attracted to them at all physically.
And even though I'm not married yet, I'd assume that it would be difficult to share a bed and have sex with someone for the rest of my life if I don't have any physical attraction to them.
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I agree with Mehnaz...
You may not find someone instantly attractive but after a while they begin to build a place in your heart and then you really dont care...
Though..I just have one criteria..he should be taller than me...I just dont't wanna look like his mum.
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I’ll click on intelligence! An illegigent person has the ingredients for a successful relationship (mostly) because he is aware of many things. You cant expect some dumbo (even if goodlooking) to understand women 
nor their feelings, emotions. Therefore things like understanding, care and love arent guaranteed.
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I shouldnt reply to this thread because I'm blessed with both in my hubby - he is so very beautiful inside and out. Yes he has his faults (one of them being that he likes to "nudge" people on GS! lol!) but a beauty he is, mentally and physically. I'd like to tell you that even if he were ugly I'd love him just as much but he's the whole package you know?
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Allah also blessed me with a hubby who’s wonderful, from the core to the top. (
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u cant just concentrate on one aspect foa person, like everyone said, it's the whole package... for me personally, if i get to know someone, their personality n character shine thru and they look more physically attractive to me... it also works the toher way, if i don't like their character or personality, they physically look unattractive to me.