i am always telling everyone that looks doesn’t matter for me when it comes to getting married, i go for personality only. sometimes i have crush on people that no one finds attractive, and sometimes i get repulsive toward someone who everyone think is really good looking only because his personality doesn’t appeal to me.
so few days ago, i find that how true it is in my case when i sorta had crush on someone who i have never seen, only read his blogs. he is very funny, well informed, patriotic, and over all a very decent person (i assumed all that from reading his blog posts of last 3 years)
… so what do you guys think? has it ever happened to you? i think even though this kind of attractiveness is a lot more deeper than the one which is based on physical attraction, but i think it has made me very picky, i mean with face u have a hit or miss kind of a thing, you either like the person or dislike, but when u get attracted based on personality it becomes complicated because there are too many sides of it.
what what your take on it?
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I wouldn't know. I was blessed with a wife who has both the looks and personality mashAllah.
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**Looks do matter !
Physical attraction is important to sustain any relationship......and what might appeal to me may not appeal to you however personality is something that needs time to discover once you get past the looks !
In your case you are basing your crush on what you've read or what he has portrayed in his blogs and it is easy for anyone to portray an attractive persona through a medium does not necessarily translate into real life .**
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I believe thats one of the old line that Guys/girls use to hit on others .. .. but bottom line .. its FALSE.
just imagine, would you be even interested to talk to someone if he/she doesn't appeal you physically ? think rationally.
if its love, then this line "could be true" but even to fall in love, you gotta get into some interactino and that interactino would start with some conversation etc and if he/she isn't good looking you would not even bother to talk to em
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you can't really tell just by a blog, you need to talk and spend some time together to really know a person.
some people are average looking but when you start to know them you start finding them more appealing.
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he has portrayed in his blogs and it is easy for anyone to portray an attractive persona through a medium does not necessarily translate into real life .
Read it loud , standing in front of a mirror , at least 5 times a day .
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** it is easy for anyone to portray an attractive persona through a medium does not necessarily translate into real life .**
but how :(
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Read it loud , standing in front of a mirror , at least 5 times a day .
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awwwwwwwwwww … how cute 
PS: OP have you noticed how different men are with pretty women compare to ugly ones 
So yea looks DO matter 
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some people are average looking but when you start to know them you start finding them more appealing.
Thumbs up!
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Yanzla. Often what and how one writes may not necessairly be the guide to know his real self. He may be funny online but in real a very serious type of guy. I don't know how it is with most people but i am often told by my siblings that i am more nicer online than in real, lolz. I think that has got to do with the fact that i express better in words. So yah.
p.s hai kaun :p
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I think looks are important but they certainly are not everything.
I would say true love, like Singing Death, is forged through hardship and dicipline... but to brave the flames the two must have some link... just like the pattern welded rods.
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yanzala
Also, the guy might not be single, he's probably engaged.
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Looks play an important role in married life atleast for me!!!
I dont want to wake up every morning next to a guy who i think isnt attractive...
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let ME read his blogs. ill tell ya what I think :)
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Looks play an important role in married life atleast for me!!!
I dont want to wake up every morning next to a guy who i think isnt attractive...
Very well said.
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Looks do matter. You can tell yourself it doesnt matter, but it does. Nothing shallow about it. Being 'attracted to someone' is the understanding that their 'looks' is what attracted you in one way or another. Now, what kind of looks attracted you, good-bad, hot-not, thats all subjective from person to person. Ever asked someone, 'is he good looking?' and the answer was 'no, hes attractive for me though'...thats still looks. So at the end of the day, its all about your own definition.
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but how :(
Its a "talent" :D***
Re: looks doesn't matter
Looks do matter. You can tell yourself it doesnt matter, but it does. Nothing shallow about it. Being 'attracted to someone' is the understanding that their 'looks' is what attracted you in one way or another. Now, what kind of looks attracted you, good-bad, hot-not, thats all subjective from person to person. Ever asked someone, 'is he good looking?' and the answer was 'no, hes attractive for me though'...thats still looks. So at the end of the day, its all about your own definition.
10 thumbs up :D.
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